Guys got a call from my friend, she recently got a Nikkah with some guy, and ruksathi will be a month from now. They went out couple of times, and now she is in 2 minds cuz guy wanted to have sexual intercourse with her.
she was puzzled if she 'd have sex with him, would he think later , she must have done it before?
In Islam, is it ok to have sex before ruksathi,( because his pitch is " I am your husband")
Next date in a week, and guy is like, be prepared…
Any comments? 
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well though its allowed as they are husband and wife.
but i would suggest, she shouldnt do that and ask him to wait for the wedding night,
romantic side of this, charm will still stays of wedding night.
social side is that, cause anything can happen between now and rukhsati, what if this doesnt happen at all ?? for some reason? or guy change his mind?
what if she get pregnent and rukhsati is delayed or doenst happen at all?
what situation the girl will be in that situation?
i am sure guy will wait and will may like it if his wife to be ask him to wait for the wedding night.
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Islamically there is no such thing has "rukhsati". They are husband and wife - free to do whatever they want.
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She should get the nikah nullified. The guy sounds like a sexual predator who can't even wait for a month.
PS. I think this thread is a troll.
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No.
bursting into laughter
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well, juss trying to help:)
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Well, okay, NIKAH means they are husband and wife. please let them help themselves. yeah but if the girl is not comfortable then she should be very upfront and clearly tell the guy how she feels. if he cannot respect her feelings then he is not worth her.
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Again, a guy speaking to his friends regarding 'sexual intercourse' with his nikahfied-wife-to-be speaks volumes of the indecency and lack of respect he has for his spouse.
I hope this is a troll and nothing more. Else, the girl is in for long term misery with this a$$hole.
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^ ahem
the girl is the poster’s friend :tweetie:
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not really though,making a long story short, i just wanted to get an opinion.. as per my advise to her, tell him to wait …
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like someone already mentioned, they're married so they can do whatever they want. culturally maybe he could ask to have the rukhsati done earlier if he can't wait another month. one of my friends was supposed to have her rukhsati done a few months after the nikah but the next day her husband and his family called up her mom and told her they wanted the rukhsati that day and they came to get her. it was very surprising but they went along with it because he was her husband after all.
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I'd like to ask ... what exactly is the ruksathi? Are they legally and fully and legally married already because of the nikkah?
My first reaction is to tell the guy to have a cold shower and wait but I am not sure of the significance and differences between ruksathi and nikkah etc.
... but there is nothing on the planet I've ever seen that's more beautiful than a pakistani flower-bedecked wedding bed...thats something so special that I'd want to have it very much for the special event. Rather than sneaking around and losing maidenhood in the back seat of a car or something similar you know?
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Nikah is the formal ceremony after which you are man and wife. Normally nikkahs are followed with the rukhsati i.e. the official handing over of the girl to her husband by the girls parents which marks the end of the wedding ceremony. Sometimes, however, due to certain reasons after the nikah the girl goes bac kto her parents house and the guy to his own whic hmeans the rukhsati has not taken place. In such scenarios rukhsati is left for a later date. So even though u are married the girls parents have not sent her off with her husband yet ppl generally abstain from sex et al until the rukhsati takes place.
In my opinion she should wait.
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He is a typical Pakistani kid :biggthumb, har bari muchi rehti hai har waqt. Tell your friend to stand up and say no baby no not right now…:nono:
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Mama, Rukhsiti is some cultural bullsh!t practised by many south eastern muslims cz of influence from hindu culture. in Islam, it has no significance. Nikah is the official marriage contract as per the Islamic religion.
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well, if I were that girl…I’d tell my new hubby ok … as long as there were the blessings of the families and I got the flower-bed!!
otherwise, cold shower and hold yer horses man!
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flower beddddd… ooooooooooh
LOL
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why the hell is she telling you all this
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^ maybe he looks like a bhai so they are discussing
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Some back ground would help...is this arranged or love? how long have they known each other?
islamically they can have sex but obvioulsy based on background...and what country they are in now i would adjust my advice accordiingly.