some positive and successful wedding and/or engagement stories?
This place has start to become really depressing. All that seems to be going on here is negativity about marriages, relationships, and a lot of gender bashing.
So lets have some positive (and true) stories, if there are any. 
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hmm successful engagement stories..
i duno what my story is but its going great so far, Alhamdulillah...
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^ I purposely threw in engagement stories keeping you in mind. :)
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^ hahaha... thats sweet :)
i think there are a few other guppies on here with successful engagement stories. I think most of them are prob being nikkahfied these days... ive still got another few months to go though
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^ lets have yours. ie. how you got to know him, engagement, etc.
That is only if you feel comfortable sharing, else it's all good.
Wish you all the best, insha'Allah. :)
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umm umm.. well we were speaking on the phone for awhile (several weeks) and then we met.. and things started rollign from there
i think communication is the key... best way of getting to know someone :)
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so it wasn't arranged?
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ummm it was... but it wasnt. Like we got introduced to one another.. so yeap, it started off as arranged, but our families wanted us to talk to one another first and yeap decide for ourselves
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:biggthumb
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hehe.. now im feeling shy 
someone else can contribute
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Sadiyah...
In the real world, there are many and-they-lived-happily-ever-afters, but so are instances of where the evil stepmother, the tyrant and the wolf, win...
It is not in our hands...All we can do, is make Dua, and try to make sure from our side, that our decisions are not hasty...
The rest is upto the Almighty...
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^ i dont agree. It is in our hands to make life easier and simpler. To say its all upto Allah Mian is a bit i dunno.. naive and silly.. I dunno
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Wasn’t talking about after marriage sadzzz…
I meant before…
My sister once got a proposal from somewhere…At that time, my sister had a green card…My older brother-in-law said they were after the green card…My father and mother refused saying such a nice family wouldn’t do such a thing…
We did our part by checking the family out, we went to their house, they brought out a whole laminated Shijra-e-Nasab going all the way to Hz. Siddq Akbar 
…Great family, good looking guy, great background and all…
So, after awhile upon the insistence of my elder BIL, we told the family that the green card had ‘expired’, just to check their reaction…(At the time our green cards were made, they didn’t have an expiration date…)
That was the last we heard of them…
What I am trying to say is, we did our part, but in the end, it was Allah :swt: who opened them up…My BIL’s ploy didn’t hurt either…
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sadzzz -- it is niave and silly of laja, but then he isn't married and still a relative child (relative to me laja, nearly everyone here is a child relative to me, lol) :) But if anyone can make marriage work that way, he would be the one.
It's work, hard work sometimes, but marriage (any relationship really, even the parent/child one) is work. You comprimise, you give something up, your partner gives something up and in the end you appreciate each other more. You thank God for the blessings and the trials becuse the bad times allow you to grow closer and to know each others strengths.
Marriage is what you both put into it. If you both want a sucessful marriage and are willing to work for it, it should happen.
I think I have bragged enough about mine. Just know that he is my other half, I don't know how I lived without him before I met him. But even with all the love we have, we still have to work at it.
Bedtime :) Good night all......
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saadiyah.....count me in for pleasent experiences .....Alhamdulillah!!:)
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nikkahfied and extremely happy Alhamdulillah :-)
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Naive and silly I may be, but I can tell the difference between before and after marriage…
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i got married recently too, had the nikkah, and alhamdolillah, its great, im happy. he so sweet mashAllah takes care of me,alhamdolillah. Allah has been merciful.
May Allah place between the spouses love and mercy, the tools for which He hath created the union of marriage.
PS. i think maybe what lajawab was trying to say is whatever is in your kismat?
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Well,
marriages based on Jaheez, green card, or some things like this have a little chance of success, even if both parties feel well satisfied at the moment of engagement.
Marriage or engagement is all about selecting the right partner. Mostly when a girl brings in a lot of Jaheez or some thing with her, she definitely feels to have an upper hand and thinks to be treated like a prince. Similarly if the boy or his family have done favors for the girl or his family, they think in this manner too.
Another factor is the thinking of the persons involved. If thinking is different, then it is hard to survive.
Unbalanced relationships succeed in some cases buthave a high ratio of failure. Similarly balanced relationships fails sometime but have a high ratio of success.
These days, people spend weeks when making some investment. Similarly, when making engagements try to put your best efforts as it is the most critical decission one will face in life.
Don't go for some money or benefits. These benefits will never live long or will not always be that much attractive, but your partner have to live with you till the end of life and life must be spent happily. If a person is well satisfied with his/her partner, then the attitude towards all other things is also good and vice versa.
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Ohh
I posted the wrong message, I guess........
For successfull marriage or engagement stories, try to find such people around you. I mean in the real life.
A person well satisfied with his partner and life will naver have enough free time to come to a forum and share the success story as such people have better ways to spend their spare time.
The modern World of the WEB is full of people who are trying to settle down in life, people developing software or web, people who don't want to involve in sports for some reason and have some time to spare as well,..............
A person having a busy life, good relationship with the partner will never share his/her thoughts on forums, unless if that person is a good writer just checking for some new ideas, etc.