Re: Can the husband demand
The exact ayat of the Quran is:
*As to those women on whose part you see ill conduct,
admonish them (first), (Next), refuse to share their
beds, (And last) beat them (lightly); but if they return
to obedience, seek not against them means (of
annoyance). Surely, God is Ever Most High, Most Great.
[al-Nisaa’ 4:34] *
and the bowing before husband Hadith you are talking
about is:
*Abu Hurayra reported that the Prophet, may Allah
bless him and grant him peace, said, "If I were to
command anyone to prostrate to anyone else, I would have
commanded women to prostrate to their husbands."
[at-Tirmidhi]*
The Hadith emphasizes on the importance of the worship
to the oneness to Allah. Mankind and Jinn have not been
created but to worship Allah. As Muslims we believe that
there is no one worthy of worship except Allah, so we
kneel, bow or prostrate to no one but the one Allah as
that is only His right. This right has not been given to
anyone else, not even to the men. And in the Hadith, the
prophet states that if he were to command anyone
to prostrate to anyone, it would be a women to her
husband. But the fact is, he didn’t as this right only
belongs to Allah alone.
coming back to the topic…
I know a friend of mine…whose husband asked her to
take of her hijab when his friends come over 'as do his
friend’s wives’. However she didnt want to take off her
hijab and explained it calmly that she is very upset by
his request and that she would not be taking her hijab
off…while explaining the reason. The husband did get
upset…but eventually gave way.
Fights have to be avoided…no tempers
shooting…instead logic and calm reasoning, together
with Dua for the husband for Allah to guide him to the
straight path…
If my husband demanded something like that…first of
all…i can’t even imagine that…and second…i’d be
very very upset…and i’d stick by my faith iA!