my husband didnt demand, he asked nicely i prefer if you would dress more modestly…as in duppata on the head because this is what he was used to…however i didnt…he was upset, because he said he does everything for me and i cant even do this tiny thing, however he got over it quckly and we are fine, this was at the start of our marriage…we are more like each other, before we would think everything we ask of each other is a battle…to be fought…not anymore.personally i think if a woman demanded her husband be home on time…would we think thats ok? or if she demanded her wear somethin in particular…and if he didnt, wouldnt we get upset?
That is sort of like the hindu tradition where wives worship husbands, doesn’t sound right to me. As for forcing purdah, again I think redvelvet wrote a good post on that. I think it is better if the husband who wishes his wife to do hijab simply tells her what he desires, and tries to convert her in an educational manner, outlining the benefits and reward of hijab. That way when she does it, it will be of her own accord. No wife would refuse a husband like that, even if she did, she would eventually come around if she’s living with a pious husband,
its NOT a hindu tradition, and we are not bowing down to hubbies, god said if,…there were to bow down to anyone in this world…it wouldnt be our parents it would be a husband…
Again I find that hard to believe, in the Quran, obedience to parents is mentioned countless times next to worshipping Allah. I’m sure that is higher on the list of priorities.
Just wanted to know,for discussion’s sake, what sort of ‘try’ would you accept?? i mean what constitues a proper ‘try to make wear hijab’?? what steps/actions of his will be acceptable to you?
My fiance wants me to dress more conservative… we fought wars about the topic.. now I go along with it to make him happy. If I dont, he just has this attitude and I dont wanna deal with it. Behind his back I sometimes dress the way I want as he is just soo not understanding about wht makes me feel good and wht makes me look wierd.
If husband can’t demand anything then wife can’t demand anything either. Going by this logic, no one can demand anything of anyone ever. Do we realize how debilitating an effect this can have on a society? The buck doesn’t stop nowhere and on no one.
Interestingly, our boss at the workplace can demand whatever he wants from us, and we happily oblige because the bacon is at stake. We change our dressing habits, our eating habits, our social habits, our activities, everything for him yet are not willing to give an inch of a leeway to people whom we expect to be our rocks through thick and thin.
Sorry for being nosy,but what will you do when you are married?..will you dress as he wishes?..
I have always been rather a boring dresser…so Mr CO has been happy :D.I can’t even imagine him asking me to dress more liberally…but even if he did,I doubt I could do it.
What kind of **** husband would want to show his wife to people like that? What a loser.
Don’t marry a person like that, will lead you straight to Jahanum. If you already are, tell him to F off and don’t mess up your faith. If he still forces you, get a divorce.
Remember, the life of this world is nothing but a test.
well then i would dress the way he likes… since he buys me an outfit for a outfit tht he doesnt like me wearing.. My rule is- u dont like wht i wear then buy me something 2 replace it.
So most of the time he ends up buying me something equally dressy and liberal.. soo it all works out in the end
But not sure wht i will do after wedding.. perhaps i m hoping either 1 of us will change a lil bit to fix the problem.
