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But let's be honest, no guy would want to marry a girl who gives her number to some random dude online! Perhaps that's the case with him. And if I were you, I would cut contact with a guy like this.
Honey.....it's a phone number, not a hymen.
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Honey.....it's a phone number, not a hymen.
:o
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oh no you didn’t… how can you use words like those here 
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I didn't know hymen was on the list of banned words? Is virginity less offensive?
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^ Don't think semen is either, yet you don't ever see people speaking/making mere examples about it. Why? Because they're both equally disturbing to read and disgusting to hear for your everyday average reader.
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well you clearly didn't get the point.....so......
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^ If thats your sole claim to fame, fine by me I guess.
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2 months did seem like a long time but that was due to him. I was waiting for him to ask and he finally did...and then disappeared! I don't have a problem with giving males my number, however there are ALOT of males on there who are just looking for fun, probably half of them so that is why I am reluctant to give my number to anyone after speaking for a short space of time. I am looking for marriage purposes online, not to have a friend.
I feel comfortable with getting to know males...alot of males think I am easy to talk to and have a good sense of humor. That is not the problem...the problem is what i wrote in the original post. I just can not be bothered with this happening time and time again!
It's good you feel comfortable getting to know males!
Just make sure next time if the guy is stalling exchanging numbers or doesn't bring up skyping or isn't pushing for step 2 then skip him and go to the next guy. I know online matches are real and happen but honestly they aren't for everyone. Like I said earlier, there are a lot of people online just simply to forget something/someone or they live alone and between work and home, they need to occupy themselves. Usually there are red flags and one of them is that the guy takes ages to respond and or is inconsistent with his messaging. Sometimes even the nature of the conversation can be telling.
Another word of advice: no matter how awesome or fun he sounds, never talk to someone for hours (in the initial stages anyway). Make your conversations an appropriate length and don't tell him your life story all at once.
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well you clearly didn't get the point.....so......
Whilst I do agree with your point of view, yeah the way you outlined it was disgusting.
Pretty sure if a dude decided to use dick and testicles to make a point, they would be blasted for it.
I wonder how it would go down if you dropped hymen in everyday conversation with people in your life.
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[note]*Please stick to the topic posted by OP. * [/note]
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Honey.....it's a phone number, not a hymen.
Good one !!!
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^ :k: For a guy who’s on a online site seriously searching for a wife, he’s not going to wait 2 MONTHS before exchanging phone numbers. And since you’re also searching for a husband and not a BF, don’t go weeks (and HOURS of chatting) before pushing for the next level (ie. exchanging phone numbers/meeting in person). And if a guy is hesitant on exchanging numbers after basic info. has been exchanged after a few online conversations (and you two agree that both of you are looking for the same thing), then you know that you need to move on.
This should not be much different than an arranged rishta in real-life. It should not take months and months of chatting online to decide whether or not you want to talk on the phone…and it should not take months and months of talking on the phone to decide whether or not you want to meet in person/get parents involved.
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But I liked the fact it took a while to exchange numbers. We messaged everyday but I still don’t know a lot about him, just the bare minimum. If exchanged numbers within a few messages and realised we didn’t click…half of my region would have my number!!! My aim to find one sole guy to get to know more…and talking for a few weeks will determine if I want to take it further.
Finding someone online is different to your family finding someone or being introduced to someone because in the latter, at least someone knows that male so can vouch for them. You do not anything about a person behind a computer screen. You could be talking to 50 year old for all you know…that’s why I prefer to take a few weeks.
Anyways, he got back to me on the online thing. He told me he went on holiday and wants to ring me. Why he can’t text me that…I don’t know. I literally can’t be bothered. I’m already bored. I wish I could meet someone in person 
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You do not anything about a person behind a computer screen. You could be talking to 50 year old for all you know...that's why I prefer to take a few weeks.
1) In my book, a few weeks = 2-3 weeks. Very different from 2 MONTHS. I see nothing wrong with chatting for a few weeks.....but in my opinion, 2 months is just way too long to exchange numbers/talk about meeting in person (assuming the 2 people are serious about marriage and are clicking).
2) I 100% agree with you that you don't know who's on the other side on the internet. Which is another reason why I don't understand why you'd want to waste 2 MONTHS. All that time/energy on a someone who could turn out to be a 50-year-old as you put it. I would think this is the same reason why you'd want to exchange numbers and move it forward so that while you're continuing getting to know one another......your family can do their part and check out the guy's background/family to make sure everything he's telling you is true.
4) I'm not sure how long you want to search for a rishta......but since you insist on chatting with 1 guy at at time.........spending 2 months or more on 1 single guy..........you do the math. This could be a LONG road for you.
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B.S. It’s not like he just woke up one day and surprise…there’s a holiday planned for him. After 2 months of continuous chatting, he could have easily sent you an IM/e-mail whatever.
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Agreed with Paheli, guy is playing you. I'd tell him to take a hike
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Hmm.. it depends on how much you got to know the guy. As many have said move on, it's probably his loss.
Or if you want to give him one last chance then either message him again or call him once.
Though I think that if you don't know him that well then move on.
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Nevermind, I read your recent messages lol. put him on ignore
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1) In my book, a few weeks = 2-3 weeks. Very different from 2 MONTHS. I see nothing wrong with chatting for a few weeks.....but in my opinion, 2 months is just way too long to exchange numbers/talk about meeting in person (assuming the 2 people are serious about marriage and are clicking).
2) I 100% agree with you that you don't know who's on the other side on the internet. Which is another reason why I don't understand why you'd want to waste 2 MONTHS. All that time/energy on a someone who could turn out to be a 50-year-old as you put it. I would think this is the same reason why you'd want to exchange numbers and move it forward so that while you're continuing getting to know one another......your family can do their part and check out the guy's background/family to make sure everything he's telling you is true.
4) I'm not sure how long you want to search for a rishta......but since you insist on chatting with 1 guy at at time.........spending 2 months or more on 1 single guy..........you do the math. This could be a LONG road for you.
There is alot of idiots on that site just looking for fun or alot who give their number within 2 messages. I had a guy who messaged me the other day asking me if i wanted to meet up for abit of fun. So i think i was greatful this guy actually was interested in what i had to say and what I did. I know where he works and who he works for. He does seem genuine. He only signed up on the site a few days after me so was probably sussing the site out and the people on it. He did say he came across alot of strange girls, as I did come across alot of strange men.
To those who think he is playing me by telling me he went on holiday...I am a girl he met who is behind a computer screen...he doesn't have to answer to me or tell me what I am doing. He is, unlike me, probably getting to know a few girls, whereas I like to get to know someone one at a time, which I am fine with.
I probably will make more of an effort getting to know a few more people, but there are alot of males who aren't my type on there so it is harder. Males tend to have to pay to use the site, and females don't so don't know whether that puts off more males signing up.
I still haven't replied to this guy yet as I haven't really had the chance but I might follow it up...what have I got to lose?
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I joined this one site for a bit and I just ran away. I mean, people are so not serious. Truth is because it is so easy to access and find people online, people are just looking for better and better. If someone is missing ONE thing, they will quickly move on to the next because they know how easy it is to find another person online. I don't think he didn't like you, I think he just happens to be one of those people who don't know what they want in life anyway. It's so funny how people say "he doesnt like you, get the hint", seems like you people have been doing the same thing in your lives. Because people who actually KNOW WHAT THEY WANT and are sincere, do NOT waste two months texting someone they dont like.
Secondly, if a guy is only texting you, do NOT approach him. I mean, if a guy doesn't even have the personality to speak to you in person, would you really want to be with such a person in the first place?