Re: Can someone enlighten me?..
Your sense of outrage is actually pretty amusing.
Most of the girls, even with arranged marriages have had their *own *parents send their pictures to a potential’s family via email, and the guy’s parents (especially with sons living away from home) will send the pic to their son. Some of those very parents will give their daughter’s phone numbers to these family’s so that the guy and girl can speak to one another and get to know each other.
So to call the pic sharing and number sharing bey-hayaa or bey-sharam actions seems OTT.
Sure, no girl or guy should be sending out inappropriate photos of themself and maybe well before the guy comes riding in on a horse to take her away she should tell her parents about the guy, but really - you need to ease up a bit. It might not work for you, but don’t get all Judgy-Judgemental about this poor girl either.