Can someone enlighten me?...

[nadii86]

Re: Can someone enlighten me?..

@Zafra

On line “dating” is just like real life dating. Some times you have one “date” and then nothing happens. Either the guy is not interested or there was no spark or something else came up. To speak of dating in economic terms is simply and issue of supply and demand. Guys or gals are looking for certain specific details and traits when they date. They are originally attracted to each other and then afterwards its chemistry, conversation and the feel of the person. On line dating is more cumbersome as you do it all via text and through a computer. It doesn’t allow for a lot of intimacy and it can be a hard medium to get to know someone. However if you seek to find a companion through this method I would point out some hints.

How often does the guy contact you on his own? That is an indication of his interest. Generally as a girl I would recommend you wait for him to ask for your number which he did in your case. Then wait for him to call and wait for his second or third call. The more frequently a guy contacts you after his initial phone call is a very good indication of his interest. Since this is all on line a phone number takes on a far greater level of importance than in real life.

As for you you have nothing to blame yourself for. You did nothing wrong. You are who you are. Screw the guy if he doesn’t like you for who you are. Blaming yourself for doing something wrong based on a single conversation is retarded. You act how you are comfortable. A guy should always take the first step to move the relationship forward. Consider it just a simple date. One date it didn’t work out, move on there are plenty of men out there and there is bound to be some who are a better fit for you than him. Also to be honest him not calling you is him saying he is not interested. Its easier to ignore than be brutally honest.

What a great post :). I agree with everything you said.

I just found it weird he became disinterested as soon as he got my number. Like he just gave up afterwards…it took him two weeks to call me and then nothing.

I got to know someone in person and we were very honest with each other that we thought we weren’t suited well. This was after ALOT of communication and one meeting.

I thought online matrimonial sites would be the same.

I am definitely forgetting about him. I was more asking for advice for future references. I’ve tried talking to others on the site but conversation didn’t flow with them so I’m cannot be bothered to be quite frank.

When Allah has written for me to meet someone, it is written for me