is it that much of a personal matter, that the population expansion phenomenon is considered utterly unimportant, that dwindling natural resources and food will never be an issue to people, when everyone’s more-than-two-kids CLEARLY ADD-ON to the growing numbers of world’s human population?
is it some race of one ethnic group over another to have more people in their life time?
can people realistically feed, clothe, shelter, provide medicine and education, to more than one or two kids?
are they so able to provide a good enough of necessities in life to have nothing inadequate in their children’s’ lives?
Yes people can afford more than 2 kids dushwari because iits sunnah.Her bacha apna rizq khood le ker atta hai is liye i don't care about money issues .Its just worldly thought that it is hard to raise more than 2 kids.It is especially really easy to have 4 kids in USA or UK or CANADA .Being a muslim if a woman can easily have kids then she should go for it.SOmetimes the problem is women's health that she cannot have more than2 or 3 kids thats another issue but about affording we can easily have 3 or 4 kids.
Are you the types who need a lexus, a maid, restaurants at least once a week? If this is your leaning then unless youre very wealthy then dont think about little ones.
If you want a family and this is your focus and your desire then yes its affordable.
Her bacha apna rizq khood le ker atta hai
^ This statement is actually taken a bit to seriously by the Islamic people - yes Allah says that he provides whatever he wants to whom ever he wants to but that doesnt mean that you keep on producing and producin and producing.
we have to look at our financial status and all as well - and whether the parents would be able to treat all the kids equally and take care of all of them having babies is a big responsibility and taking care of another life is not that easy - you cant just bring them to this world and then go on saying Allah hai na yaar he will give him whatever he wants so my job is almost done - no!
you should either stop at two or three but if you suddenly one day find out that you are pregnant then you shouldnt abort it.
but if you really think that you are in a positing and have plannings done already then you should go for it.
It depends on one person, If you are talking about sending them to Best schools, Cars Big house then NO you can not.
But if they are going to Govt school where there are minimal fees, and living simple life yes you can afford even 10. As you don't need to buy designer cloths, latest gagets and so on.
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I have seen beggar women in pakistan flocking around traffic signals and busy areas carrying their toddlers, pawing every passerby and whining "mera bachha beymar hai, ghar mein khanay ko kuchh nahin hai" etc, etc.
If they can't afford it why do they keep making them?
If they can't afford it why do they keep making them?
coz they cant afford condoms or they really take the "kids bring rizq" to heart, sending them out to work and make money, instead of sending them to school..
see.. i think ppl take that "kids bring their own rizq" too far.. originally it was meant for the ppl who kept killing thier baby daughters (and now are having abortions) becuase they cudnt afford to keep them and marry them off.. that's WRONG and despicable, on every level, individual, social, etc. In India, there's signs that say "spend 500 Rs now, save 50,000 Rs later"to encourage ppl to abort their female fetuses.it will be expensive now, but it will save money later coz of dowry issues..maybe in pakistan it's not that bad, but there are still ppl who go "toba toba" at the thought of having a daughter, or treat the birth as a death almost..
But at the same time, preventing conception, i.e., using birth control for watever reason, isn't wrong. There's a big middle ground between having 12 children and killing female fetuses out of poverty.