Re: can I have some advice from people who may be known to this problem?
Lol, the burping and growing out hair sounds funny (its gross and definitely a turn-off), but don’t fool yourself. She can be a total cow and the Pakistani relatives would want to marry her. Most people in Pakistan dream of a way to get out of there. Those cousins of her’s probably see her as their ticket.
lol seems like you’re a younger version of a friend who is going through the exact same thing right now.
well firstly, you don’t need to feel alone.. i know quite a few brit girls who have had this issue and i’m appalled and disgusted by the mentality of their parents. i hope you find a way out of this. second, you’re going to need to build a relationship with any elder in your family who can try and get you out of this mess because running away is NOT an option especially if you have younger siblings.. you have to be their role model and you have to set a standard for them. running away will not do that, but you have already stated this so good for you! i doubt you can speak to any officials either because you’re scared that you will lose contact with your family, specifically your siblings and mum.
sounds like a difficult ordeal, have you tried to reason with your mum separately from your dad? try to get your mum on board. tell her you don’t mind at all getting married but you want to wait and get yourself established before thinking of bringing a husband into your life. maybe if you also mention to your mum that the potentials your dad has chosen for you aren’t the right sort of guys.. i doubt any mother wants her child to get married to an arsehole.
you could also, learn to burp really loudly, grow out your leg/moustache/eyebrow/arm hair and scream any urdu gaaliyan you know every time they are around in pakistan so that way they will think you’re a crude girl with tourette’s and not touch you with a barge pole. (this would be my option)