Can I find a girl who hasnt had a pre marital

[Paheli00]

Re: Can I find a girl who hasnt had a pre marital

@sailfish

As others have mentioned previously, in general one should cover their past sins. **An individual striving to be a better Muslim after making mistakes would be doing the right thing by hiding their past **(unless there is legitimate reason to admit to it, i.e. you have children that you are responsible for due to those past mistakes). That lie would not just be (religiously) permissible but preferred to revealing the truth (although it would be even better to avoid lying when hiding the sin). I think the argument is that a religious person would do their best to overlook a spouse’s past mistakes if such as thing came to light. It can be cruel to divorce a person whose mistakes come to light as they might have genuinely been attempting to better themselves as a person.

So going by this logic…a man or woman can lie about their past sexual history…even alcohol/drug usage etc. to a potential spouse. And Islam sees nothing wrong with it? And it would be “cruel” to divorce them once it’s discovered that they lied. Wow.

Question: Does this same rational apply to present sins? If a husband cheats on his wife, does Islam encourage him to lie about that too? Is it considered “cruel” for a woman to divorce her husband if she finds out that he cheated on her AND lied about it? Or is the situation somehow different b/c the sin took place after the nikah papers were signed? BTW, this same scenario could happen with a woman sinner too (ie. wife cheating on her husband and lying about it).