Can I find a girl who hasnt had a pre marital

[Captain_Obvious]

Re: Can I find a girl who hasnt had a pre marital

@Reha

It is unreasonable to divorce someone because of a past that is long over and done with.

I don’t understand this about people who are very religious or claim to be very religious. Islam is supposed to make you a better, kinder and more forgiving person. Your connection with Allah swt is supposed to give you more sabr and strength. When your faith fails to touch your heart and reflect in the treatment of those around you, I believe it stops being about your faith. It becomes acrobats on a rug. A beard could be a goatee. Saving yourself could be another way of saying no one you liked wanted you.

Saving yourself is sort of a part of Pakistani culture. The OP is just a very cultured guy but I don’t believe this requirement of his has anything to do with Islam. Its just desi.

There’s nothing unreasonable in what he wants. Hypothetically speaking, if he were to make everything clear to the girl beforehand, then he found out she wasn’t what he wanted, I couldn’t judge him for ending things. I believe in second chances and all, but this would be something that affects him and not me so he would have to deal with it. Then again, wouldn’t a girl also have a problem being married to a guy who has that problem being married to her? There are after all guys out there who are ready to overlook this kind of thing while others may not be.

Deen covers many aspects. Treating people right while not praying isn’t going to make up for that deficiency and vice versa. Saving yourself, though it might also have to do with culture, is the way to go according to deen as well. I can’t judge math’s intentions (neither can anybody else here for that matter), so I have to assume it’s the right one. I think right now, math, this is not the time to be thinking of a divorce before you’ve even gotten married or seriously looking at a potential. As per my understanding, you’ve met two and they didn’t suit your requirements. What I would suggest is that you end things there and move on. Just focus on what you’re looking for. What you’re asking for is neither unreasonable nor impossible to find, so keep looking and continue making lots of dua. May Allah find you the one you’ll be happy with and who will be happy with you.