Can I find a girl who hasnt had a pre marital

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Re: Can I find a girl who hasnt had a pre marital

@IndiGo_Rain

Your original post mentions that you’ve only met two girls so far and both had a past. If your rishta search had been more extensive, I’d understand the disappointment. But it’s only been two girls. I doubt you’d marry a “paarsa” girl if you found her incompatible in other ways. We all have our deal-breakers and things we find it hard to get past that would hurt the other person as well. That said, better to marry someone you’re satisfied with. So continue your search, inshaAllah you’ll find her. Your requirement is not an impossible one.

I would like to add though that judgement is complex and better left to Allah because He knows what’s in our hearts, He knows our intentions better, He knows how sincere our own iman is and that of others. One could follow all of Allah’s commands and still might end up in hell for something like pride.

Kisi ko hakeer samajhna or to think of a girl with a past as “one of those girls” or “there’s a word we use for those lot of girls” or to view them with disdain isn’t right. I think the companions of the Prophet SAWS did not have a pristine past, but he didn’t look down on them. It’s not just about following rules, it’s also about attitude and having humility etc. A girl/guy might not have a past but could be arrogant, have a bad temper, have a severe gossiping/backbiting problem, be materialistic. And just one of these “khoobiyan” can destroy your duniya and akhirat as well. I’m not justifying having a past. By all means marry a woman who doesn’t have one, just don’t look down on those that do or think of them as being “inferior” in in character or iman.

My judgement complex is an issue with regards to this. iA i can change.