Why are your mamoo and brother's opinions taking preference over the rest of the family? Your mamoo is the last person to be affected by what's going on which is why it's easy for him to give advice like "tumhara naseeb hi yehi hai". I think your own parents had a better idea of what was going on. Lastly, someone who is abusive is not going to change overnight, most abusive men don't change at all until and unless there is years of therapy and anger management involved. My real, deep fear is that he's going to get you pregnant. Either by taking advantage of you during a weak moment or by straight out rape. I've seen enough cases of abusive marriages to recognize a pattern when I see one. And if he's not allowing you basic rights like leaving the house when you wish and is making you live with people you hate on a daily basis, even that in and of itself is enough of an abuse. And PLEASE REALIZE THAT HIM TALKING TO YOUR FAMILY IS USELESS. I don't understand why people think this helps. It doesn't. It temporarily calms down the situation but it a man is a dog he'll stay a dog regardless of how much your family talks to him. Just PLEASE don't have any physical relations with him and divorce his sorry ass if he ever abuses you again.
i came to his house...now today is 2 day...seems to b happy...he is quite change...mashallah...let see how much he can control his bad habbits...
he told me that he realized alot...he said whenever he obey me or fulfil my wish,his family told him(tum to biwi k nechay lag gay ho)
tabhi wo asa karta tha...now lets see agay kya kya hota hy?hope for the best...
i came to his house...now today is 2 day...seems to b happy...he is quite change...mashallah...let see how much he can control his bad habbits...
he told me that he realized alot...he said whenever he obey me or fulfil my wish,his family told him(tum to biwi k nechay lag gay ho)
tabhi wo asa karta tha...now lets see agay kya kya hota hy?hope for the best...
Best of luck girl. Try to assure your husband that you both can have a wonderful life if he changes himself and you look forward to spending your whole life with him. Hopefully he changes himself for both of you.
happy you’re safe
good luck with it and also try to correct some of the things you’re doing wrong too for the sake of the marriage, we all have flaws. we aren’t perfect right? but it’s only been 2 days, please keep this thread updated on how you’re doing. i’m pretty sure there are marriage counselors in dubai, do you think he would be open to going to that while you both are trying to improve the marriage?
he told me that he realized alot...he said whenever he obey me or fulfil my wish,his family told him(tum to biwi k nechay lag gay ho)
tabhi wo asa karta tha.
I'm surprised he admitted to his family saying that.
I know that toxic in-laws can be found all over the globe....but man desi culture seems to have the chitiest variety.
