Re: can husband/man change his bad behaviour…
Sana, your husband is an idiot…but i think there is something wrong with your dimagh as well.
Your husband did not develop this abusive personality in a few days…he has been this way for years. Aur tum yeh pooch rahi ho that has he really changed in a week? Sorry to sound harsh, but that is a rather stupid question. 
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Getting a license and being able to drive would make it easier for him since he gets annoyed with dropping you off to your mom’s house. Not allowing you to get a driver’s license…is abuse.
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Are you a baby or something? Do you really ask your husband’s ijazat to go shopping with your own mother? I don’t see how that is any of his business. You shouldn’t even have to seek his approval or permission for going out with your family…and if you are seeking permission…then there’s something wrong with you as well. Not allowing you to go out with your parents…is abuse.
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Forcing you to go to his parents home when you’re not ready…is abuse. Forcing is abuse. You need to understand that abuse is not only limited to beating…it also includes hurtful words, threats, preventing you from doing basic things, etc.
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Wake the hell up. He says that he won’t abuse you…but he’s already abusing you through his words and actions…and you are still too blind to see it.
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LOL, your mom says that he has to “apologize” to you? Are you and your ammi that nadaan? This guy has apologized to you several times before, I’m sure, but has that ever changed him? No! Woh tum se kya…tumhari poori family se bhi maafi mangay…tab bhi nahin badlay ga. You and your mom are basing your decisions and really silly conditions.
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You told him that if he “loves you, he should have tried to stop you from leaving”…seriously? That sounds rather Bollywoodish. LOL, even if he had stopped you…cried khoon k aansoo…and begged you not to leave him…that still doesn’t guarantee that he would change his ways and start respecting you.
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And you really believe that if he bought you a home…separate from his parents…that he will treat you better? Are other members of his family abusive? If not…then maybe that’s a problem that he has…and is not that influenced by family. Look, he can still treat you like chit even if you lived with him…away from his parents.
I dunno…the kind of ideas that you have make you sound like a naive bachi. Wake up and see that he hasn’t changed…that his new promises/shartain still reflect abusive mentality. If you can’t manage to realize what’s going on and keep coming up with ideas that only prolong your misery…then maybe you want to be in that situation. It’s a shame that your mom doesn’t want you take stronger action and actually believes a maafi will change your husband. I hope that the rest of your family is more sensible than the both of you.