Meri amma has suddenly decided that 25 is the age when kids should get married….. Me and my youger brother are going to be engaged with daughters of our family friend….
I am not avoiding the rishta because I have some problem with the lady ..in fact as sister told me my honay wali begum was the one who was willing to marry me…..but * abhi to main chota hoon aur duniya main daikha he kia hay……* I don’t want to get married now…and still don’t want to mary her…. she is beautiful aur main sath chaltay hoay hoor kay pehloo main langoor lagoon ga ..j/k……but she don’t have a sensible choice….( u see she was the one who selcted me) ..and she don’t suit me…….i am a molve type ..and she is just a normal modern girl…..
Now ..plz help me on how to avoid the rishta…..
Following suggestion are pre rejected…
Suicide……..astagfirullah
Tell amma/nanni ….. mar nahin khani
Try to be bad guy approach……….no I cant do this…..have good reputation….
BB - Perhaps you could talk to her? Express your concern that you are afraid that your expectations from marriage are different from hers. Or, step up and say something to your mother. I know you don't want to, but you should consider it. How does your brother feel? If he's ready to be married, make it clear to your parents that you don't mind if he gets married first.
How are getting someone else to kill you, would that be considered suicide?
Joking aside, tell your mother. Kabhi kabaar maar khani parti hai zindigi main, istarah pata chalta hai key aap zinda hain. She might postpone the actual marriage or something, just get you engaged or something. :)
I was afraid to tell my parents as well but eventually I did. You have to find the parent that you think will sympathize with you most, and talk to them about it. It doesnt mean you think they will agree with you, just are more sympathetic to you.
And what about praying that somehow it will be diverted until you feel more ready?
Why cant you see the duniya and all that is in it with your wife?
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come on nihari..be a man..tell ur parents u just dont wanna get married to her..wats the big deal yo
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masla hy yaar....
khair thanks for the replies......
my younger brother is more then happy.....i told my elder sister that i dont want to marry her.....she 'll try to talk with amma...
Nesico: she wont mind it ...
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mm maybe she wants to marry u BCOS ure a molvi type
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yahi to masla hay...she wants to marry me because iam so naik waghaira waghiara..
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tell your mother. Kabhi kabaar maar khani parti hai zindigi main, istarah pata chalta hai key aap zinda hain.
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tried that..amma says ..itni piyari larki hay...baiwaqoof mat bano.....main kal phone kar kay haan ker doon gee...
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Perhaps you could talk to her? Express your concern that you are afraid that your expectations from marriage are different from hers. ----- make it clear to your parents that you don't mind if he gets married first.
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i'll try that......but i dont think kay kam banay ga.....
khair....
update ye hay ...kay i am praying from yesterday ..dauain mang raha hon kay karachi ki tamama larkion kay rishtay ho jain..atleast all larkis in family......
meri to jaan chotay....
seriously though ..i dont want to engage my self with some one for long time..... i will marry some one else next year ..but not her....
dont want to discuss thecricketing crap of speed of shoaib akhtar ..or how to play on front foot....
look if you don't want to marry her period ...or just not now.. either way then it does not matter what she or your mom wants
YOU need to speak up for youself! Cause if you cannot then yeah you definitely are not ready to get married.
Also if you marry someone to please your mom or even the girl when your heart is not in it... then this is definitely not good. The feeling has to be mutual and both of you ready!
Parents dont know what's best for their kids..certainly not mine in this area. lol
Everything female, pretty and polite is a perfect girl for me as far as my mom is concerned lol
Yaar, kia masla hai? Agar larhki achi hai, pasand hai to Allah ka naam lo aur forun shaadi kar daalo nahin to meri tarhan baitthay kai baitthay reh jao gay…
Bao Bihari, surely all you have done is escaped this marriage for a year? In one year's time, won't you be in the same situation, where they want you to marry the same girl, and won't you have the same reasons for not marrying her?
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Bao Bihari, surely all you have done is escaped this marriage for a year? In one year's time, won't you be in the same situation, where they want you to marry the same girl, and won't you have the same reasons for not marrying her?
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Bhai main bihat khushu khuzo say is ki shadi ki dua karon ga.......may go to bestrishtay.com for this :D ....
INfct one of the main reason of escaping shadi was that i dont want to hurt my best buddy...he wanted to marry her but got rejected tough he is very well settled....but khair.....
so i took escape for one year to decide what to do...find some rishta for the lady waghaira......
kuch to karna paray ga...otherwise will marry her....khoob guzray ge jo mil baithay gain deewany doo :D
