Re: Can any Muslim dare to think against this woman's lifestyle and thoughts ?!
People won't give their own opinions about teeth against what the dentist says. **Same goes for all the other fields of life. It is only the "DEEN" maskeen that has to suffer. We have experts in all fields of life, whom people trust and follow. But in Islam, everyone is an expert, except the experts, with whom if you spend a bit of time, **you would realize that most of the true scholars spend days and nights with a lot of sacrifices (such as hunger, pain, sleepless nights..etc) for learning and spreading the knowledge of Quran and Hadith, while our Islamic knowledge is mostly acquired through a journey from couch to fridge, along with snacks and drinks in front of the TV/internet.
Yes we don't give our own opinions in these issues but when a doctor prescribe some medicine we can at least do some research and take decision to take or not to take that medicine. If a doctor misdiagnose us what we lose.... just a teeth or may be little bit health. but what we lose when we are misguided by Scholars... We lose our Iman and Deen.
Allah has clearly said that We are here to explore the world then why don't we do research. Why we always depend on scholars to get answers. We have Quran-e-Pak and Sunnah and there is nothing complex. You can easily understand the Quran-e-Pak Translation and Ahadis. So why bother to go to scholars for every little matter. You never know who is write and who is wrong. I am not totally against Mullah culture but i believe in only few Scholars because others are just confusing. I have seen many families who follow some good scholars but they become so obsessed with them they start giving them equal status to Hazrat Mohammad S.A.W literally.
**Where is Islam does it say you cant have friends of the opposite gender?
** Obviously your life experiences and mine are very different. I have many friends of the opposite gender who I have been alone countless times with and I can say confidently that our relationship is clean, platonic, and halal.
If are not strong enough to give in to temptation then dont have friends of the opposite gender, but dont chastise people who are able to.
As for the logical and rational I think you misunderstood. Wearing a bikini might be logical but it is against Islam. My point was you can adapt Islam according to the times as long as you are following the same tenants. For example, if your situation demands you work with men, then work with men, but dont flirt with them, keep things professional. Further if you are interacting with the opposite gender and you feel temptation either stop, or go about it in the correct way. Try to make your relationship halal.
Like I said, those who are going to sin are going to sin regardless of any measures taken to combat sin. Look at Saudi Arabia, a so called Muslim state with Sharia Law, and illicit relationships and behavior running rampant.
Opposite gender person is your Na Mehram and Islam is against any type of relationships with opposite gender. In fact Islam does not allow any brother sister relationship between two stranger (either they are cousins or friends) except blood relations. So friendships between boys and girls are not allowed in Islam.
You know I think the problem is with muslims. I wear hijab and attend go to school, plus i have had jobs. When nonmuslim men see me in a hijab they keep their distance. I have nonmuslim guy friends but they know where the line is. I have never told them. Classmates and men I have encountered while I am working are the same way. They are very respectful and professional with me. However, Muslim many men tend to get overly friendly with me. They probably think since we are both muslims, its okay to develop that close relationship.
Moreover, I think Muslims place too much emphasis on the teachings of scholars. If you study the Quran and life of the Holy Prophet, you can come to your own conclusions about Islam, you dont need to get a scholars opinion about most things, Purdah included. But thats just me.
As for you saying that we shouldnt adapt to changes in society. In my opnion if Islam is a message for all of mankind and time, then Islam should be able to adapt to various people and time because like I said society evolves, and there are so many different types of people and cultures in the world. Just because you adapt Islam according to needs today doesnt mean you are changing Islam. If the purpose of Purdah is to hide to keep chaste and discourage relationships before marriage, you can still do practice Purdah while keeping these ideals alive and interacting with the world. I mean if someone wants to commit sin, Purdah or lack of Purdah isnt going to stop them.
Totally agreed here with you.
I am agreed here with you as well. Why we always emphasis on pardah for girls? I am not denying the importance of pardah in Islam but when it comes to Islam people starts mentioning pardah. Few days back i had a conversation with my school friend (male friend) on this pardah thing and i was saying why guys don't lower their gaze and he said that why we should if girls are exposing themselves in front of us. Long story short he blames totally bepardah girls. What i am tryng to say is that we need to change ourselves first either boy or girl. Islam does not enforce anything on anyone. But Islam has given us complete way of life and their pros and cons and its upto us what we accept or what not and we will be responsible for our own deeds.
p.s. Its just my own point of view... and it could be different for different people.
And yes i am very weak Muslim who doesn't follow Islam completely. May Allah guide us all on right path.
…it would have been good if you focused your energy on the topic…