…once broken, be reformed?
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How does the trusted do it?
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How should the truster accept it?
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it takes some time.
depends on the situation n circumstances. also on the ppl n their relationship
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No, I seriously doubt that the trust once broken can be reformed....
and even if it does..it take years !!
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as everyone said it can take many many many years....
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It's hard to trust someone again, the person who broke it has to proove he's trustworthy again. That takes time and it depends on the person and situation I guess on the amount of time needed.
Like someone makes a promise to you and then breaks it, the next time you don't buy into promises from that same person until you will see that now they are being kept.
It's all about deeds, not words. For some people words are so easily said but when the time to act upon those words comes, they miss out.
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Yes and no…depends how much that person is worth to u and how much u have invested with them…
1 = by actions i think…no use telling someone who u betrayed that u have changed, i won’t do that again etc…with time, ur actions will reveal if u have really changed, and the person will know by little, little things u do, that u r once again trustable…but like i said, it doesn’t always work…every situation is different, every person is different.
2 = by forgiving…that’s the first step…but to forgive sincerely, and to start over…fresh plate…no looking back to wot he or she *had *done before & no bringing up the “act” from the past, when the two of u have a heated arguement.
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I agree with KRD here…it really depends upon the individuals and the kind of relationship they have.
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I agree, it really depends on the individual and what kinda situation or relationship they are in.
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I believe that the trusted person can ask for simple and clear justification for the trust been broken. He/she can ask why did they do it? After that see whether the clarification is good enough and/or do he/she believe it or not? Moreover, you can ask yourself why did you trust them at the first place? Were they to get you, showed lack of sincerity etc. Maybe you were naive to believe in them and didn't give the realtionship enough time to grow and prosper.
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Plus some things are so bad, they can never ever be forgiven. (and perhaps shouldn't be)
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Yeah u can ask them “y did u do it?”, but sometimes they just won’t have a clear answer…and nothing they say can change wot *had *happened, but yes, for closure i think it’s good to at least ask if that will help u move past it…even if the clarification is good enough, ur not gona be able to forgive them rite there on the spot, and restart trusting them…it takes some time…asking urself “y did i trust him (her) in the first place?” is just gona make u feel even worse…it’s not ur fault…in the start of a relationship, u go into it trusting the other person…that trust will remain until ur partner gives u a reason to stop trusting them…so of course going in, u trusted them…asking urself y is useless and self-destructing…u can’t be naive to believe them in the start, u just got together and so u give each other that trust and then as the relationship goes on, that’s when u’ll see that ok we have a good thing going…so far so good…so my point is in the beginning u just can’t tell, it’s a given…that’s the whole idea of being in love.
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awwwwwwww...you are such a cutie kahsmirraindrops...i am your fan........balkay AC.....
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LOL, thanks…i’m just saying wot i think from my own experiences, and ppl i’ve known that’s all 
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Sorry, but wot does that mean 
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bas i really like your posts.........i like your ideas ...way of expressing yourself..........
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AC means Air conditioner...hehe:D
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LOL!! Ok got it now it was AC with the word balkay, i didn’t get hehe!
But thanks again, ur so sweet 
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no i am not...you are sweet......i have learnt a lot from you.....BTW are you kashmiri.....i am kashmiri too
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Ok ok! We both are hehe…
Glad that i cud help u out…
I am half Kashmiri and half Punjabi…my Mum’s family is from Kashmir originally.
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Too many grey areas in your post. First of all it depends on the person how grown up they are. Asking for explanation is the best way to go. Even if they tell you or not about their reason makes sure whether you should trust them again. Asking yourself the question is an important thing to do because with that you grow up and see your mistakes. Yes, it is disheartning but not worst you’ll know where you made a mistake and learn from it. It will make you stronger.
About how to trust that person again. Trust is nothing, it gets broken everyday in the world. It depends on the person and situation. I believe you trust that person again because you need’ em again regardless the situation is about love or just friendship. So, the best thing is to see what went wrong ask for explanation and see what you did wrong. Maybe the person is a little bit naive in understanding that people take advantage of other people.
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^ I understand wot ur saying except for a few points...
**First of all it depends on the person how grown up they are.
**I just think that how mature u r, isn't relevant when THEY have broken ur trust.
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Asking for explanation is the best way to go. Even if they tell you or not about their reason makes sure whether you should trust them again.
**Agreed. U shud ask them (if that's wot u need to move past it). BUT...
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Asking yourself the question is an important thing to do because with that you grow up and see your mistakes. Yes, it is disheartning but not worst you'll know where you made a mistake and learn from it. It will make you stronger.
**This i don't understand...Y wud u ask urself wot U did wrong, when it was them who broke ur trust? You didn't make the mistake, they did...How is trusting someone becos u love them, end up being your own fault, if they betrayed u?
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Maybe the person is a little bit naive in understanding that people take advantage of other people.
**Again, i know that people take adavantage of others, but in a relationship how do u know BEFORE the trust is broken? When u first meet u give each other uncondtional love don't u? And i think the only way u can grow the trust is to show each other u accept them, by giving them the confidence that u believe they are being honest with u...all this is until they break that confidence, which then becomes another issue (can i trust them again).
Just wot i, personally think that's all.