Can a married man ever be a friend?

[Pisiform]

Re: Can a married man ever be a friend?

@Paheli00

What does this accomplish? The guy will just continue to message and ask her to respond when she’s not busy.

well yea couple of times and then he will get the message and would stop asking her. You know the vibes you girls give is pretty much why we respond. Give him nasty looks, avoid and he will get the message. No need to straight up being confrontational and aggressive if your actions could do without talking

[BigdaNawab]

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@rosedreams

Yup but won’t wife feel betrayed if she finds out? it’s not exactly right… However the guy is wanting to mend his marriage and seems like he doesn’t have any one to talk to except his 2 married guy friends and single girl. He had initially reached out to single girl as he wanted to know why his wife was behaving like a psycho. Sad but true.

dude, if its you and you are feeling so guilty that you on this forum talking to strangers about it: JUST STOP crying on that single girl’s shoulders.

If its not you, please relay this advice to the concerned party

If you’re having girl problems, I feel bad for you son/I’ve got 99 problems but a (unicorn rainbows) ain’t one

[StrangeOne]

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There’s two kinds of cheating. The physical and the emotional kind. The kind of emotional contact he should have spent months developing with his wife was spent on his friend. Ideal only a spouse should be a crutch for your inner thoughts, fears and emotions and by finding another outlet the guy probably made his relationship worse. Best to back off by saying you can’t help him anymore since you yourself don’t know much about married life.

[akaprincess]

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@BigdaNawab

If you’re having girl problems, I feel bad for you son/I’ve got 99 problems but a (unicorn rainbows) ain’t one

REALLY ?!?!?!?

[Paheli00]

Re: Can a married man ever be a friend?

@Pisiform

well yea couple of times and then he will get the message and would stop asking her. You know the vibes you girls give is pretty much why we respond. Give him nasty looks, avoid and he will get the message.

And then guys complain that girls play “mind games” without being direct! BTW, nothing in OP’s post suggests she sees this guy in person.

@Pisiform

No need to straight up being confrontational and aggressive if your actions could do without talking

You’re saying asking a guy to stop sending messages is “confrontational and aggressive”? This is the exact quote I gave her “Please do not message me at all. It makes me uncomfortable and I would appreciate it if you just delete my contact information and never message me again.”

[Pisiform]

Re: Can a married man ever be a friend?

@Paheli00

And then guys complain that girls play “mind games” without being direct! BTW, nothing in OP’s post suggests she sees this guy in person.

You’re saying asking a guy to stop sending messages is “confrontational and aggressive”? This is the exact quote I gave her “Please do not message me at all. It makes me uncomfortable and I would appreciate it if you just delete my contact information and never message me again.”

yea thats confrontational and aggressive if you will be seeing the same guy over and over again at work. But you said she doesn’t see him in person so I guess it doesn’t matter.

I bet your husband loses all the arguments smh

[Paheli00]

Re: Can a married man ever be a friend?

@Pisiform

yea thats confrontational and aggressive if you will be seeing the same guy over and over again at work. But you said she doesn’t see him in person so I guess it doesn’t matter.

I’m just going by what OP wrote. There is nothing in her posts that even hint at her working with this guy so I have no idea where you’re getting that from. In fact, in post 24](http://www.paklinks.com/gs/usertag.php?do=list&action=hash&hash=24) , she wrote they did not have ANY communication in 3-4 months…this is what led me to believe she rarely (if ever) sees him in person.

@Pisiform

I bet your husband loses all the arguments smh

Nope. He just doesn’t bother arguing. :halo:

[Pisiform]

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@Paheli00

I’m just going by what OP wrote. There is nothing in her posts that even hint at her working with this guy so I have no idea where you’re getting that from. In fact, in post 24](http://www.paklinks.com/gs/usertag.php?do=list&action=hash&hash=24) , she wrote they did not have ANY communication in 3-4 months…this is what led me to believe she rarely (if ever) sees him in person.

I know, idk where I got the work thing from … my subconscious i guess

[redvelvet]

Re: Can a married man ever be a friend?

Over time the married man 's confiding in this girl can lead to an emotional attachment…either a one-sided one or a mutual one…and that’s when it’ll get very messy. Why even risk letting it get to that stage? Unmarried girl needs to place herself in his wife’s shoes. This guy could turn to his own family for support, he could seek help from his married male friends…he could go to counseling as well. There are other avenues. How is he going to fix his marriage if he 's going to spend that time interacting with her instead of his wife? Meeting and talking to new people can be fun, but one should be more discriminating of which people should be kept in touch with.

[Thornewood9]

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Pretty straightforward answer. Stop talking to him. Not your concern. He shouldn’t be discussing marriage problems with anyone except his wife. Just block his number.

[Thornewood9]

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Vaisey is it just me or are people, married people that is, really stupid? If he’s upset with his wife why doesn’t he tell her? Why do these people always decide to tell everyone except the person who actually needs to know? Strange.

[rosedreams]

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I’ve never met this guy before alone. Only once with my friend for about 2 mins, shortly after their nikah. That’s when he knew of my existence. I think it is wrong of him to message me so much and also express wanting to meet my grandfather for advice and telling me his situation. I’ll definitely stop replying him.

[Qabil]

Re: Can a married man ever be a friend?

Us banday say kaho k tumhari jan choray aur jo poochna hay yahan life1 main aakar poochay. Aisa aisa mashwara milay ga k wo aur us ki joroo, dono ki tabiyat saaf hojae gi.

[PeshawarKameez]

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Its pretty simple, just ask yourself this:

if you were married would you be ok with your husband having a female friend or your wife having a male friend??

How about if your mother or father have a friend of the opposite sex?

A married man, especially if he calls himself muslim, is only supposed to be friends with his wife. no other woman. shame on him for taking a female friend

[rosedreams]

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@Qabil

Us banday say kaho k tumhari jan choray aur jo poochna hay yahan life1 main aakar poochay. Aisa aisa mashwara milay ga k wo aur us ki joroo, dono ki tabiyat saaf hojae gi.

i was really wanting to tell him to go to Life1 and post his problems lol. but i decided not to.

[rosedreams]

Re: Can a married man ever be a friend?

@PeshawarKameez

Its pretty simple, just ask yourself this:

if you were married would you be ok with your husband having a female friend or your wife having a male friend??

How about if your mother or father have a friend of the opposite sex?

A married man, especially if he calls himself muslim, is only supposed to be friends with his wife. no other woman. shame on him for taking a female friend

No and no. And that is why I decided it was not right for him to message me. He wants me to be his wife’s friend but she isnt interested to I shouldnt be involved any more. I wish married people would talk to each other more instead of confiding in others.

[PeshawarKameez]

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@rosedreams

No and no. And that is why I decided it was not right for him to message me. He wants me to be his wife’s friend but she isnt interested to I shouldnt be involved any more. I wish married people would talk to each other more instead of confiding in others.

I hope you told him off for it, thats what I do whenever a married man hits on me