Re: Can a married man ever be a friend?
Yes it is. I just felt like typing in the third person. 
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and I think married guy and single girl should be acquaintances but to make them close friend and sharing personal things is not the way to go. His wife won’t be happy and its not going to help his marriage.
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I’ve postd about it before but I had a close friend (ex-friend now) that did exactly that. She was single and became friendly with a married guy. It was innocent at first and slowly they started hanging out more and more and suddenly he was telling her about all his married problems and how he wasn’t happy with his wife (they have kids together and they’re college sweethearts) and all that. Friend still didn’t get it and continued to engage with him. Things got super weird (and obvious for the rest of us) when he started hiding stuff about my friend from his wife. And that’s also when things took a turn for inappropriate.
Most people go into these type of situations with a “I’d never go for a married man. It’s strictly platonic. I’m not a homewrecker” mentality. No one WANTS to be THAT person. But lines get crossed pretty fast if you’re not careful.
My personal rule is, you should respect the person’s spouse enough to know it’s not okay to get that close and someone married should have respect for their own spouse to know what’s okay/isnt. I wouldn’t want my husband going around telling any girl even if she was my friend our marriage problems so I don’t do that with his friends/single guys either
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6 mths ago reached out, no communication for 3-4 mths. Now reaching out again. Finding it odd.
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Exactly that’s what I thought. If I were in the wife’s position I wouldn’t want my husband talking to another girl.
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don’t tell me you are falling for him. You are better than that. Tell him to go talk to his wife instead of asking you.
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No.
he is not an angel
why does the single gurl need to talk or discuss something to a married man
Can a married man ever be a friend?
Ew I am not. I know my boundaries. 
I told him to tell his wife all that. He has. Now he wants me to befriend her. Invite her to places etc. I did but she doesn’t wanna meet any one so I’m done. Today he messaged about how he wants to meet my grandfather to solve his issues. 
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^ rosedreams, I like your posts - you generally come across as a thoughtful young girl. So, going out on a limb and saying to you what I would say to my own sister. End your friendship/chat communication with this guy ASAP.
You don’t owe this guy ANYTHING. Sure, he might be troubled in his marriage, but you can’t solve his marital issues. He needs to talk to his wife, her parents, their imam - whoever else. As a friend, the only advice you should give him is to talk to his wife and a marriage counsellor - say nothing else and cease all communication with him.
You don’t owe it to either of them to befriend her and socialize with her. Don’t call her or make friendship overtures.
Run far, far away and think about your reputation. If his wife is a psycho, it won’t take her long to turn on you and misinterpret all of your actions and ruin your reputation.
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You can keep yourself at his wife’s place, and consider his wife a close friend to him. You will get a very vivid answer. :cobra:
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good but you know boundaries get really blurry real soon. One does not meant it but it happens. Thats what life is. The thing is to stop the situation form getting there. You may even know in the back of your mind that this could happen .. frankly anything could happen. Don’t put yourself in this situation in the first place. You are still young and I am sure pretty. You will get a decent guy
Can a married man ever be a friend?
Sehrysh: Exactly. I don’t want his wife finding out he was discussing her with me. And his wife knows my family as well. My neeyats are clean and I think his are too but it’s better if we cease communication because the wife will never like it.
Thanks. I’ll tell him that it’s better we be friends and hang out together with his wife instead of him texting me behind her back and telling me to convince her to hang out with me and other girls. I told him to go to a marriage counselor. He messages me randomly telling me their marriage Prob since Dec (every 5-6 week) but we hardly talk much. However for the past 2 weeks he has been messaging frequently but I felt a bit uncomfortable. If he wasn’t married I wouldn’t mind initiating convo just as friends but he is married and I know it’s not right.
Can a married man ever be a friend?
Thanks you’re right. But be assured I wasn’t out there to look for a guy and out he popped. I just don’t want to put myself in a state where his wife, who is my friend, finds out he is texting me abt their problems.
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but would you be ok still listening/giving advise/texting to him if there is a 100% guarantee (hypothetically) that his wife wouldn’t find out? That is what you need to ask yourself. Stop talking to him about his personal stuff not because you are afraid his wife will find out but because its not morally right.
I had a lot of kool aid today so I will now shutup
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No I wouldn’t be comfortable any way. Because I’m no one to him.
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I know where this is going…
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Yeah stop replying, very inappropriate without wife’s knowledge. He doesn’t need to be taking advice from a non married girl while actively trying to hide it from his wife. You don’t need to be dragged into their drama because his wife is going to think he was cheating on her with you. Even if not true, you really want to give off that kind of perception to others?
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Well, he keeps texting messaging you because you keep replying to him! 
All you have to do is message back saying “Please do not message me at all. It makes me uncomfortable and I would appreciate it if you just delete my contact information and never message me again.” And if he send messages after that, block him without replying.
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Or, just don’t reply back ..simple. When he ask later, tell him you were busy
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What does this accomplish? The guy will just continue to message and ask her to respond when she’s not busy.