Can a Man Invite His Parents To Live With Him?

[Deeba1234]

Re: Can a Man Invite His Parents To Live With Him?

@goddamniamsoawesome

It seriously worries me how much we Pakistanis have come hate our culture and our values. Change isn’t always good. It seems by progress we mean (And I hate using this phrase but you lot forced me) mirroring the West. Why do we have to change or adjust or get-in-line? Are we that uncomfortable in our skin? Do we feel that inadequate? Our religion/culture is a great thing.

**If you want to turn this religious, it is the husband’s obligation to provide and care for his wife and parents. Now it is the wife’s decision if she wants to live with her in-laws or separately. Now if the husband cannot afford to provide a second home for his wife, she’s just being difficult, **whats a guy supposed to do? If he can afford it and still wants his parents in his home, she should be willing enough to help him out. Yeah, sure she doesn’t have to care for them and if they can afford a nurse/carer then that’s ideal.

If you’re not discussing this from a religious angle, then its just good relationship sense to accommodate your spouse’s parents. Seriously, its just called being a good partner. Now of course the husband should be willing to accommodate his wife’s parents if they have no other place to go and if he can afford it.

I’m so damn proud our entire family/khandaan is amazing in this aspect. We’re all highly educated, working in some serious places but we’re living happy in a ‘typically Pakistani’ environment. And we’re all stable and happy, mashaAllah/al7amdliAllah. You lot need to get your priorities in order. I don’t know why some of you are trying so damn hard to ‘belong’.

You’re sitting in Europe, Asia, America or wherever and talking to a person halfway around the world. That’s a freakin’ miracle. How much change do you want!

Firstly, not living with inlaws isn’t ‘copying the west’, pretty much NO-ONE does it bar Pakistanis, Indians and Bangladeshis. Don’t know why people who favour living in joint families always make it out to be a East V West or Muslim V Non-Muslim type thing..

Secondly when mentioning religion u conveniently forgot to mention the man has an Islamic obligation to give his wife space and privacy - at the very least their own bedroom, bathroom and her own place to cook, free from the interference of others which most don’t do when they move their wives in.. if he can’t even manage those basics he prob isn’t ready to marry.

Sons **and **daughters have a duty to look after their parents but that doesn’t mean they have to live in their homes their whole lives, it’s perfectly possible to live 5 or 10 minutes down the road and make sure they are ok and not lonely. If you’re going to mention religion in Islam the joint family is discouraged rather than promoted.