===Calling Your Spouse "APP"

[Chipkali]

Re: ===Calling Your Spouse "APP"

"for me ..'aap' doesnt signify respect...it just causes an uncomfortable...awkward distance...."

How is that a generalization? She said "for me", making it clear that she is not speaking generally, but for HERSELF only. People here need to calm down.

[armali]

@CurruptAngel

WOW! that’s some real load of crap!

@CurruptAngel

^^armali, I’m not the one being rude. I found HER statements to be extremely rude and so wrong because she is being too judgmental. Look at what she wrote, she’s literally attacking couples like me and my hubby and she doesn’t even know us. Ofcourse, I’m not going to stay quiet and accept her crap!

CurruptAngel, your vision has been clouded by something terrible, why else would be acting so foolish.

I am sorry but by looking at your and chanda’s posts, one can clearly see that YOU are being “judgmental”, “extremely rude”, and making up “crap”.

[fazeelat]

@Jaan Leva

Well, the process from APP to TUM is simple:

Before sex, its AAP and after sex its TUM.

Sari formalities khatam ho jati hain phir

astagfirulah....matlabi log

[ConservativeGirl]

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i call him Mr. Sexy! :D
or aap when in front of others playing all tameez wali bachi.

[Kaka_MaNNa]

astagfirulah....matlabi log

matlabi kesey? Aur astagfirullah kion?

[fazeelat]

matlabi kesey? Aur astagfirullah kion?

jab kaam hua to bari respect aur jab kaam hatam to to sab hatam...tu kon aur mey kon? i think this is selfishness.

[midnighteyes]

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We just speak in English most of the time, but when we sometimes jokingly speak Urdu, both of us always use app. I just personally find the word tum kind of ugly and never use it to speak with anyone. In Pakistan people would find it weird that I would even call children and servants app, but thats just what I like to use and like for people to use with me, for me it has nothing to do with how formal or informal a relationship is. Even my parents call all their kids app, I guess thats just what we are used to and anything else seems strange now

[dildirani]

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I would prefer it if he just called me by my name:snooty:and I would do likewise

call me a batameez if you so wish:bummer:

[SaadiaB]

We just speak in English most of the time, but when we sometimes jokingly speak Urdu, both of us always use app. I just personally find the word tum kind of ugly and never use it to speak with anyone. In Pakistan people would find it weird that I would even call children and servants app, but thats just what I like to use and like for people to use with me, for me it has nothing to do with how formal or informal a relationship is. Even my parents call all their kids app, I guess thats just what we are used to and anything else seems strange now

:biggthumb

[Malik_Zulfi]

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We usually call each/other by name App/tum/to/tussi . . . Sab chalta hey . . .:)

[Dubaiwali]

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tu aap a hi gaye life

[Malik_Zulfi]

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Bhai wahan aap logon nain Sunssan ker dia hay . . Aur yeh poori thread perhi main nain.. .itni si baat per bhi yahan larai hoti hay

[Dubaiwali]

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lol MZ bus yeh life hai hahaha .. acha agar aap kehte hai tu mai cafe wapis chali jati ho:bummer:

[Malik_Zulfi]

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Nahin .. Nahin life k sath Cafe' bhi jaari rekhain :)

[Dubaiwali]

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acha theik hai :) .. life ke saaath mai cafe bhi jari rakhoongi :)

[sweetu]

@shay9164

When our conversation switches to talking in urdu (which I do when I am angry at him), I call him tum, I have never called him AAP and feels so weird because we are the same age and have known each other for so long. But after marriage, while talking to my relatives in Pakistan and refering to him by his name and calling him tum, they started freaking out because it was just oh soooo disrespectful. He really doesn't care, he said I can call him whatever I want. It may sound bad to alot of older people but I just feel sooo weird having to call him aap, maybe because it sounds sooo formal and with my husband,** I even hit him playfully on shoulders or on the cheeks sometimes.. imagine that freaking out my relatives**

lolz same here me n my hubby also do that, but relatives dont realise its just the norm for us
regarding the issue app/tum well a bit of both, when i recently went to see him again aftr 2 yrs i decided to call himm by his name even tho it was to the dislike of his famil n ended in me getin told off, but who cares:D

[sweetu]

@jalebi121

My mom uses ‘tum’ but if mehman are around she says ‘aap’ and this always makes me and my sibs giggle.

My dad never uses tum or aap; he just talks generally. Like instead of saying “aap chai piyengi” he would just say “chai ban gayi hai”. He has also never said my mom’s name…it’s so funny…one time a house appraiser was asking my dad’s name and he got nervous, like it was a social security number lol He also never says our (kids) names…he just calls us Bari Wali, Pisthy, Bara Wala, and Pistha

I think Punjabi solves all these dilemmas-just call everyone tussi and tusaan

my parents r pretty much the same
n abu has nicknames for all of us hence none of us r called by our real names

@Jaan Leva

Who has these names for their husbands?

**Booota **

and Allah Dita

and whose fone book have u been peeking in??
my dad has friends by these names n they r married so i wonder what the wife feels when her hubby is called “oye boota, tum kahan thay yaar” in the mid of the rd

@mama_ki_dua

Whenever my mommy talks about my dad she says: “Daddy keh rahe thay..”

I just realised that my parents never take eachothers names actually

my mum tends to do the same she always seems to say ’ tere abu yeh keh rhe thay ya wagera wagera…n abu also says your mom said this…they never say eachothers names

@TLK

you never mentioned her replies to your comments

abay jaa

abay chup

abay hotel se ja ke khale

abay bailan uthaa’oon

abay bethaa reh seddhi tarha

waghera waghera

[zalamilk]

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my mom has never said aap to my dad
so i can't imagine sayin aap to my husband
i guess its the way i grew up - slightly whitewashed (but not really) :D

[drbiya]

yup...khair i always used to call APP to my UNHon:D

lol

[Your_President]

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My fiance and I almost never really talk in urdu....If we do ever code mix, its always tum from both sides.