===Calling Your Spouse "APP"

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@chanda_kh

aap…tum…hey you…oye larkey… LOL…i cant do the formal act with my husband…its so boooooring!!! now i really hope no one brings the argument of ‘arrange vs love’…because it sounds really silly…I had only seen my husband as a kid…and then I saw him a week before our nikah..after the ‘haan’…I think the reason a couple communicates successfully is directly related to the way you see each other…is your informality limited to bed only…? or you actually share a healthy relationship full of love/respect…?
for me ..‘aap’ doesnt signify respect…it just causes an uncomfortable…awkward distance…

i call him aap…during arguments though…

@CurruptAngel

WOW! that’s some real load of crap!

@CurruptAngel

I call my hubby ‘aap’ and he does the same eventhough there’s not much of an age difference but you bet we are very frank with each other and have a lot of respect and love for each other. We have both given each other informal nicks so no awkwardness like some people here are mentioning here!

@SaadiaB

Same here and I agree with you CA, I could not understand why that former poster said that it creates an awkward situation. Maybe for her.

@chanda_kh

Really!! load of crap=acting stiff and made up..and monotonous…maybe thats the reason why most desi couples suck at being themselves around each other…and spend their lives living as strangers…who cares what/how you call him…if there aint any love in it..it doesnt mean anything!!!

@chanda_kh

again…maybe you guys cannot differentiate between intimacy and the level of understanding required for you be in a position where you CAN call him by whatever name you feel like at the moment…we all have different kinds of relationships with our partners..
some are informal…and some remain formal…the luxury of having an informal relationship is that you can be formal with him/her anytime you want…
but if you decide to have a completely formal relationship with your husband…you sail in a different boat…

…since we dont talk in urdu with each other…on occasions maybe…its mostly everything else..including nicknames…anything but aap…i save that for when i am angry…

@CurruptAngel

Generalizations galore!!!

Again, stereotypes! I’m SO amused at your level of maturity. You can’t even differentiate between calling spouse ‘aap’ and having a formal/informal relationship! You seem to be completely INCAPABLE of understanding the real dynamics of a relationship with spouse so I won’t even bother replying to you again. Think whatever you want!

@armali

Chanda_kh, I am sure you have a wonderful relationship with your spouse,and know him better than CorruptAngel!

CurruptAngel!! quit being so rude!!! you sound like you have some thing personal against Chanda!!

Looking at all the above quotes, I don’t think CA is rude, all she said there is no need for generalization. Different people call their spouses with different names and the names they use don’t give us any information to judge their relationships, level of intimacy, love, respect, etc. So yeah I not trying to start a kabadi match here but just thought of making this point.