Re: ...Calling Someone "Uncle"...
Without our parents, none of us would be here, however, even amongst my desi friends, there is a difference (in the family dynamics perhaps) among people who live in the home of their in-laws, and those whose in-laws live in their homes. For example, I feel financially secure in knowing that if anything (Allah forbid) happened to my husband, I would be protected because my name is also on our mortgage, and vice versa. My friend, however, was thrown out shortly after she was widowed by her in-laws who didn't want an extra mouth to feed. There is also typically a difference in the way that the MIL treats the DIL, but I digress.
You know, I get a little tired of hearing about how much desi parents sacrifice, and everything they do for their children. Do you really believe that gora parents do any less. My parents made so many sacrifices for us, whereas my husband and his siblings were raised by masseys while his mom was being the perfect army begum. In fact, at least at the school my kids attend, the gora parents are far more involved, whereas most of the desi parents can't be bothered to show up for anything other than conferences.
I love and respect my family, and make sure that all of their needs are met. Desi parents didn't corner the market on sacrifice, or doing everything for their children, they just like to talk about it and use it to manipulate their children more.