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SOoooooo…Does this all …no calling -him-by -his-name-business…I’ll have to quit saying…“Oye Maaajjjjjeeehaaa gal sun”…
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BTW…How is it…if u say Soniye…to him in a bunch of people…and half a dozen turn back and say…“Ji Sunayeh”…
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hehe- I think its ok to call him tht in front of his mum, dad, brother, sisters Lol
they r not PUBLIC right 
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honestly, its 2007! are we still debating whether we can use our hubby's names?? come on, girls, we are not that backward. i call the fiancé honey or babe or his name - whether we're at home or not. thats his name. just like he calls me by my name. thats why we have names. so people can use them to call us. there's a thousand other, much worse ways to show your partner disrespect - getting stuck on this one way is ridiculous. (edited to add: and thats assuming its disrespectful in the first place!)**
mili,** its one thing if its a family tradition, but there is no set rule on what you should use. whatever you're comfortable with is what you should use.
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my chachi calls my chacha by starting with "ajee main kaiya" it's so adorable.
mum refers to my dad by his name. even in gatherings...but i dunno makes it sound more respectful then :p
my one khala when talking to kids or whatever used to refer to my khalu by the name everyone called him. with her sisters or whatever it was his name. my other khala does the same...with her kids its daddy, with us its uncle, and otherwise it's khalu's name.
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I actually say his name in front of others – when it’s just the two of us we have various pet names we use 
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HOW is it disrespectful to call someone by their name? It is the tone and the intent that gives disrespect – NOT the use of the name!
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munniii ki ammmmmaaannnn! zara suniyay ga...
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Call him Susie if he likes.
Desis have a way of overcomplicating things to no end. Call him by his name, simple. There is nothing in Islam that asks women to show this kind of respect to their husbands.
How about calling him Shirley?
but we do not care about Islam... we care about *******ized version of Islam that exists within pakistan... you know, mixed with daqya noos traditions + Islam
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HOW is it disrespectful to call someone by their name? It is the tone and the intent that gives disrespect -- NOT the use of the name!
yes, thank you! i completely agree!
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cheegum and kaleem
you guys are free to call your husbands whatever you want to call them :)
PS: spot on btw. 100%
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cheegum and kaleem
you guys are free to call your husbands whatever you want to call them :)
I call him: "Me, myself & I".
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so how about “Aslam kay Abba…zarra baat suniyaay” ← that works no?
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Which islamic books have you read that you come to this conclusion... Islam teaches Respect ... so Calling someone by name is Disrespectful . especially someone who is older than you and husband .and vice versa with wife. Calling husband ya wife by name isnt really appropriate ..
i ll give you an example of the Prophet SAW when calling His SAW wife .. The Prophet SAW used to Call Hazrat Ayesha RA not by her name Ayesha but 'Humera' ..the meaning of Humera is Red Blossom Flower .. and All the Wifes of the Prophet SAW called The Prophet either by O Nabi of Allah or O Messenger of Allah SWT.. No where have i read .. that any of the wifes of the Prophet Called The Prophet by name.
Since you bought Islam in to this i had to mention it. :)
fbi thanks for the example. Still, what you posted is an example of sunnat, i.e. we may or may not follow it, its not the law.
Maybe you can point me to a hadith where it says that Rasool Allah (SA) ordered his wives to not call him by his name. Or maybe even a hadith where he asked other women not to call their husband by their names.
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it reminds me of a joke.
aik khatoon k hubi ka naam hota hai "Makhan" (butter), aik bar wo apni paroosan ko aik glass main milk deti hain or us per makhan tair raha hota hai. parosan poochti hai yay milk k ooper kia hai? wo khatoon sharma ker kehti hain "Munnay kay aba".:D:D:D
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Totally agree with sgc and cheegum…Personally I don tknow any older couples who call each other by their names. Sometimes my mom calls my dad Janni, but she says it when shes mad too lol so its lost the whole "haye meri jaani " type appeal.. i dont think its wrong to say someones name but is merely comfort level/how things are done…
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What works for one may not work for another.
To say that not taking your husband’s name is backwards or dakya-noosi is ridiculous. It may simply be a matter of romance and cannot in any way denote how close you are to your spouse.
To say that calling him by name is disrespectful is also foolish. Just because you do does not necessarily mean that you are closer to him than those that don’t.
I grew up in a home where you didn’t call anyone elder than you by name. So my eldest brother is referred to as “Bhaijan” by all younger siblings and “Uncle Bhaijan” by neices and nephews.
The next younger brother is called “Bhaisaheb” and “Uncle Bhaisaheb” while the eldest brother addresses him by his name.
So ultimately the idea is respect.
The same is not true in my in-laws. There everyone addresses each other by name…young and old alike. There is no disrespect meant there. That’s just the way that they grew up. It’s neither better nor worse. I had a tough tmie adjusting to calling elders by their names so I stuck to my “Bhaijan” etc., even amongst them. Everyone that heard thought it was the sweetest thing and showed respect and endearment.
To each his/her own.
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i call him always "darling" also among others, but in german, coz V R in germany... i have never called him by his name... its not coz of respect, but its an habit!
but when i talk about him i use his name...
my mom calls my dad with: "maine kaha" and vise versa... sometimes they say "jaane"...
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i call him always "darling" also among others, but in german, coz V R in germany... i have never called him by his name... its not coz of respect, but its an habit!
but when i talk about him i use his name...
my mom calls my dad with: "maine kaha" and vise versa... sometimes they say "jaane"...
Respect someone from the heart and not how you address people.........It sure will sound funny if someone calls their spouse by Suntey ho Kaminey, Chintu ke ABA.....
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i’m gonna call him that
my mamoon always calls me mumani “honey” like honey paratha tay bana kay lay kay aa. even when he’s yelling, it’s honey.
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Janab, main to kahta hoon kay sab jhoot hay, "garrrrrr-wali" apnay mian kio kaya naam daitee hay (ya daina chaahtee hay), us kay liay aap ko record karny pary gee haatoon-e-khaana ke ghussay bharee awaaz jab woh "kids" ko bulaatee hay yaa daantatee hay, e.g., "vay ... day patthayo" "vay tutt panyo tay ... day ..." "sunday naeee ... day bachayo" aaaaaaahhhhh, main nay be aik dafa record kar kay awaz sunaa dee garrrrrr-wali ko kay woh kis kis naam say mujay nawaaaz raheein thein, indirectly
aaaaahhhhh ... zulam hay
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Why is it considered “disrespect” when one either a husband/wife call each other by names.
Its really depend on how one name/call their life partner (depending how a person is romantic or not).