Calling out ur husband by name

Maham · May 23, 2007, 10:31pm

Re: Calling out ur husband by name

What works for one may not work for another.

To say that not taking your husband’s name is backwards or dakya-noosi is ridiculous. It may simply be a matter of romance and cannot in any way denote how close you are to your spouse.

To say that calling him by name is disrespectful is also foolish. Just because you do does not necessarily mean that you are closer to him than those that don’t.

I grew up in a home where you didn’t call anyone elder than you by name. So my eldest brother is referred to as “Bhaijan” by all younger siblings and “Uncle Bhaijan” by neices and nephews.

The next younger brother is called “Bhaisaheb” and “Uncle Bhaisaheb” while the eldest brother addresses him by his name.

So ultimately the idea is respect.

The same is not true in my in-laws. There everyone addresses each other by name…young and old alike. There is no disrespect meant there. That’s just the way that they grew up. It’s neither better nor worse. I had a tough tmie adjusting to calling elders by their names so I stuck to my “Bhaijan” etc., even amongst them. Everyone that heard thought it was the sweetest thing and showed respect and endearment.

To each his/her own.

well said:)