Do you think its still taken as an ill-mannered act to call your hubby by his name or discussing about him taking his name?? :hinna:
Do you take his name?
Also how many of you say him Tum and How many of you say him Aap?? 
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No buddy?? 
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I don't think there is any harm in calling a husband by his first name. We are given names so people can call us by them. For some people in our culture, it is not only considered disrespectful for wife to call her husband by his name, but for the husband to call his wife by her name as well. My parents don't call each other by their names.
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My paternal grandparents never called each other by their names. I don't know about my aunts n uncles. I have two cousins....both in their late 30s to early 40s....one of them was raised in the US....who don't feel comfortable using their husbands first name.
I personally don't think there's a problem in doing so. I don't think k naam na lainay se koi khaas faraq parta hai relationship main...nor do I think that it is such a great sign of respect. To each his own.
Aap is more respectful than tum. But some might prefer tum to create a more casual and comfortable feeling in the relationship.
Do what you and your partner feel comfortable with. It's hard for one to gauge the level of respect or love in a relationship based on just these two things alone...nor is it reasonable to do so.
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Please avoid calling jaan,jaanu,jaani in public. shudder
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It is okay to call by names.
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I'm going to call my man by his name, the concept of not doing so is just ackward
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I always call my husband by his name. There isn't any disrespect or ill-mannerism associated with this, i think. Though my mom never called my father by his name. O I just realized that I actually have never heard my father's name from my mother,,,
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Sindhi ladies still call their husbands ‘Sain’ 
ghar main school khola huwa hai
‘sain’ sirf husband ko nahi respect mai bhi kaha Jata hai like ’ baba sain’ .
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My wife calls me by my name and vice versa. And so do my parents. However my mother-in-law does not call my father-in-law by name. When speaking with my wife about him, she would say "aap kai abbu", when speaking with me it would be "aap ke uncle", etc.
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aur aadat ho aur achanak zuban p ajaye to? :hinna:
OK, what I have observed here is most of you are saying that you all call (including me) your husband by his name, and you have never seen your parents or grand-parents calling eachothers names!! What do you think? what can be the reason?? 
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old school.
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I think in old cultures relationship between wife and husband was not based on equality. Husbands were given upper hand that created concepts like Pati Parmeshwar, etc. One you give someone status of Parmeshwar, you don’t dare to call his name. It may be due to respect or fear, depending from case to case
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I am born and raised in the US, have been married 14 years (mashallah! and yes, it was a love marriage) and since the day we became involved, I have NEVER addressed/called my husband by his name, lol! It just doesn’t feel comfortable to me, and never rolls of the tongue…it always “Sunaain” or “Suniyay” :sid:
This is not something that he ever imposed or expected, nor is it common in my family..all my khalas/mamis/cousins address their husbands by their names…pata nahin mujhay kya mushkil hai 
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Exactly, but I’ve observed Sindhi girls calling their husbands Sain in front of others and when they grow old then ‘Bhudhi tho poRha’- Sun rahe ho baRe miyan 
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hm!! But an upper level will always be given to a Man, keeping in mind the lesson we learn from Quran Pak. It has clearly stated that a man has an upper level than a woman. So, the equality between husband & wife will never be there!! Now?
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Quran doesn’t give men free hand to exploit. It put responsibility on them. This is wrong concept exploited by male dominated society. When it comes to relationship like husband and wife, both got equal rights. No molvi can prove against it. One might study humor between the Prophet and his youngest wife Hazrat Ayesha to know exact level of comfort between husband and wife
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No, Man is leader/head of the family. and this status also comes with responsibilities too.