Is that supposed to be a rule? When you’re interested in someone, do you call them every day? (This is more for the guys I guess).
I have come across guys in the past that do not communicate daily, but every few days they touch base. Is that a bad thing? Or is that just the case for some people. I ended up meeting someone, (they’re already engaged, just met them somewhere) and we got to talking, and he said he calls his FIANCEE like twice a week, and makes it a point to not call every day, otherwise he doesn’t want to look needy.
So if you don’t get daily calls from someone…is that ok? Should you just chill out and let things go their pace? Or you assume the guy isn’t interested and just stringing out along?
fiance? for crying out loud, I would call her daily if I am not super busy or tired. If I am just seeing someone, then not daily .. maybe like 3 times a week until things get serious
^ Ok so when FIRST BEGINNING TO TALK TO SOMEONE, even after maybe meeting them, a few times a week is ok? No one should be expecting daily phone calls early in the game?
^ Ok so when FIRST BEGINNING TO TALK TO SOMEONE, even after maybe meeting them, a few times a week is ok? No one should be expecting daily phone calls early in the game?
Yea I wouldn't start calling someone daily after the first meeting simply because I don't want to appear too desperate or clingy. No one likes that. But if chemistry develops and talks become more serious, then frequency of phone call gradually increases. Thats what I would do. I don't know how other guys do their thang!
One thing I also like to mention which pisses me off so much. When I text you, please answer back. Don't take an entire freakin day to text me back. Some people play hard to get and I don't have much time and patience for that. I like you thats why I am texting, so get on with it and move forward. I texted this chick couple of times I got a reply the next day or 12-18 hrs every time. I chalked it up to maybe her cell phone died or something. Then I texted her again about if she likes to grab food? and got a reply 9 hrs later saying yes. My patience ran out by that time. I told her I liked her when I first met her but I lost interest now. Scratch the dinner plan and good luck.
Is that supposed to be a rule? When you're interested in someone, do you call them every day? (This is more for the guys I guess).
I have come across guys in the past that do not communicate daily, but every few days they touch base. Is that a bad thing? Or is that just the case for some people. I ended up meeting someone, (they're already engaged, just met them somewhere) and we got to talking, and he said he calls his FIANCEE like twice a week, and makes it a point to not call every day, otherwise he doesn't want to look needy.
So if you don't get daily calls from someone...is that ok? Should you just chill out and let things go their pace? Or you assume the guy isn't interested and just stringing out along?
If I am engaged, I better be talking to him everyday.
But no daily calls if I am just getting to know someone. A few texts daily are okay.
Once exclusivity has been established, I like daily phone calls unless one/both ppl are busy.
One thing I also like to mention which pisses me off so much. When I text you, please answer back. Don't take an entire freakin day to text me back. Some people play hard to get and I don't have much time and patience for that. I like you thats why I am texting, so get on with it and move forward. I texted this chick couple of times I got a reply the next day or 12-18 hrs every time. I chalked it up to maybe her cell phone died or something. Then I texted her again about if she likes to grab food? and got a reply 9 hrs later saying yes. My patience ran out by that time. I told her I liked her when I first met her but I lost interest now. Scratch the dinner plan and good luck.
Depends on the person. Some people have the capacity to talk everyday and some don't. I would find mandatory talks everyday a terrible chore. Conversation should be organic and should flow according to whatever happened in your life rather then some fixed time and date.
Depends on the person. Some people have the capacity to talk everyday and some don't. I would find mandatory talks everyday a terrible chore. Conversation should be organic and should flow according to whatever happened in your life rather then some fixed time and date.
im so relieved to read the replies.. im pretty new at this and we've been texting each other every 2-3 days. some people think thats not enough but if it happens everyday i feel like the conversations will lose their "quality"
i guess if you're engaged its a different story since you're more comfortable with each other but i would still give preference to quality over quantity
No, I wouldn't call or text someone every day if I were interested in them and nikah had not been done yet. After nikah, yes, I would stay in touch regularly.
Hell no, did not call or email every day before we got formally hooked up, did not do it afterwards and now that I travel I don't call every day, may or may not text daily either. I suppose by the prevailing wisdom here we don't have a strong relationship, don't love each other etc. Oh well :-/ ....
Most ppl I've dated have wanted that and more (communication). There's always an adjustment period for me to go from not staying in touch with anyone every single day to hearing from someone everyday. Once I adjust, I quite like it.
So if you don't get daily calls from someone...is that ok? Should you just chill out and let things go their pace? Or you assume the guy isn't interested and just stringing out along?
Just saw this part of your question.
I think the person is stringing me along if they are contacting me once a week. I don't have patience for that. Now that I'm thinking about it, I'm the one who may take a bit longer to respond/let them get in touch with me :/. But no games are intended, I promise.
Wise ones do not raise the expectations by calling twice a day everyday. This applies to all including the once you barely know, GF, fiance, wife blah blah blah
Most of the guys wont be calling you daily once the initial connection has been made and there is a mutual understanding of staying in touch. Teen guys and the ones who has nothing to do are exceptions.
I don't remember us calling every single day...but I know there was a flow of communication throughout the day via text.
After things got serious though, we were talking everyday.
I also believe each relationship is different...so don't compare your situation to everyone else's.
If you feel like you're reaching out too much, chances are you're right and you need to take a step back. Your intuition is pretty reliable and you can trust it.
In the beginning stages, let things unfold on their own. See where things take you two. Don't be in a rush to set rules, expectations, have serious talks, etc.
That's another interesting question. Is delaying responding to a text message appropriate? How do you know the person is just busy vs. they're playing hard to get vs. they're avoiding you and then finally replying because they don't want to be rude?