That's another interesting question. Is delaying responding to a text message appropriate? How do you know the person is just busy vs. they're playing hard to get vs. they're avoiding you and then finally replying because they don't want to be rude?
If when you meet in person and the person has their hand glued to their phones it makes the not near my phone too much excuse seem lame. Secondly WhatsApp gives you seen notifications. They're for people who're trying to figure out who's sincere about responding or not.
But really gimmicks aside you could just ask them when is the right time to message them. And see whether even in those timings they're not prompt.
But plz don't be like one of my friends rishtas who was whatsapp stalking her and would give her no time to reply. Like she would have seen the message but if it was some long essay type of reply (he was still "interviewing" her) she wouldn't reply immediately and would do it at a later time. He would always call her out on it... "I see u were online at this time and I sent the msg at that time so ur not replying blah blah". Anyway she was really sick of that and started texting me on another app so she wouldn't have to go on whatsapp! That went down the drain really fast, needless to say she was pretty sure he was not "the one" almost immediately.
Oh and about ur main question... A lot of ppl have hours and hours of conversations (when both r willing to forgo sleep) getting to know each other and some r just not. But I would atleast expect some sort of communication everyday unless something really big and important or time consuming is going on in their lives. And that doesn't mean that he should be the only one initiating the communication. It should be a two way thing. And not to keep tabs on each other but it should be fairly even initiating-wise. As long as that is established once, and both of u know that u like talking to each other and no one is avoiding anyone or playing hard to get, then after that it doesn't really matter who is doing the calling as long as the other person is there to receive the call and talk, or reply to text conversations. I hope that makes sense.
Oh and about ur main question... A lot of ppl have hours and hours of conversations (when both r willing to forgo sleep) getting to know each other and some r just not. But I would atleast expect some sort of communication everyday unless something really big and important or time consuming is going on in their lives. And that doesn't mean that he should be the only one initiating the communication. It should be a two way thing. And not to keep tabs on each other but it should be fairly even initiating-wise. As long as that is established once, and both of u know that u like talking to each other and no one is avoiding anyone or playing hard to get, then after that it doesn't really matter who is doing the calling as long as the other person is there to receive the call and talk, or reply to text conversations. I hope that makes sense.
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You can not necessarily relate to other people's relation . How can you be sure if something works for so and so might work for you too ?
Some people just talk to much in the beginning and after some time there is just an awkward silence .
People often say that it would help us to understand each other , but I think nothing helps . You can hardly understand the person through phone , because nobody is their real self in that period . Everyone wants to portray themselves as the nicest of human being you have ever come across .
sometimes too much of talking also leads to an emotional bonding , which deprives us of thinking rationally .
Is that supposed to be a rule? When you're interested in someone, do you call them every day? (This is more for the guys I guess).
I have come across guys in the past that do not communicate daily, but every few days they touch base. Is that a bad thing? Or is that just the case for some people. I ended up meeting someone, (they're already engaged, just met them somewhere) and we got to talking, and he said he calls his FIANCEE like twice a week, and makes it a point to not call every day, otherwise he doesn't want to look needy.
So if you don't get daily calls from someone...is that ok? Should you just chill out and let things go their pace? Or you assume the guy isn't interested and just stringing out along?
I don't think there's any rules. If you wanna talk to someone, you'll make the effort to do so whether that is through texting or phoning. If you want it to be a rule, then that means you have expectations which could lead to you getting hurt. So why not just go with the flow without any expectations and if anything is meant to happen it will. I don't think phonecalls are needed at the start, unless both of them don't like texts and prefer it. Texting a few times+ a day would be fine.
If a guy is only talking/texting you once every few days, or weeks. Drop him. Seriously.. Nobody got time for games. If you know he's genuinely busy, it's probably different and that should be short term but generally I would have thought if someone was interested they would communicate with you on a daily/somewhat daily basis.
If I had a fiancee, I wouldn't be leaving it to twice a week. Who does that? How would that make one look needy or clingy? If she's your future wife to be, surely you'd wanna talk to her daily if possible even if it's just by text.
There isn't a set rule to this, and it's so childish to me lol, kind of something little boys and girls would think to not look needy or desperate.
If both sides are interested in this rishta - then why wouldn't they like to talk to each other or at least send a text. Everyone works and I'm sure people are busy but we make time for people we care about. It's crazy to think people would think a simple text saying hello how was your day would be seen as desperate?
I still have long convos with my husband via whatsapp while we're both at work and have down time. We use to do that even before marriage too and I think it's good to know that you can have conversations with a potential husband/wife.
You can not necessarily relate to other people's relation . How can you be sure if something works for so and so might work for you too ?
Some people just talk to much in the beginning and after some time there is just an awkward silence .
People often say that it would help us to understand each other , but I think nothing helps . You can hardly understand the person through phone , because nobody is their real self in that period . Everyone wants to portray themselves as the nicest of human being you have ever come across .
sometimes too much of talking also leads to an emotional bonding , which deprives us of thinking rationally .
Agree. Talking does not necessarily make people understand each other. And daily talking for hours, is just too much. Unless a woman is willing to learn something about politics and sports.
But it looks like most women like to talk. Hardly a surprise.
Instead of worrying about looking needy, maybe he should check his maturity level, it seems alarming low, if he HAS to make a point of not calling his fiancee everyday. Jesus christ.
IMO, there is something crazy about people who put so much thought and focus on texting and calling - Like “oh I called/texted last time, her turn” .. or .. “urgh no one texts me” and then when someone actually does, it turns into “OMG what a despo/needy guy/girl!” Seriously some free shrink appointments would be great :halo:
If someone texts/calls you, go with the flow. If they don’t, take the hint and let it go. Stop overthinking. Personally, I love texting and I’ve been married for almost 10 years, I still text my husband randomly through the day. There is just so much to say haha!
I don't think there's any rules. If you wanna talk to someone, you'll make the effort to do so whether that is through texting or phoning. If you want it to be a rule, then that means you have expectations which could lead to you getting hurt. So why not just go with the flow without any expectations and if anything is meant to happen it will. I don't think phonecalls are needed at the start, unless both of them don't like texts and prefer it. Texting a few times+ a day would be fine.
If a guy is only talking/texting you once every few days, or weeks. Drop him. Seriously.. Nobody got time for games. If you know he's genuinely busy, it's probably different and that should be short term but generally I would have thought if someone was interested they would communicate with you on a daily/somewhat daily basis.
If I had a fiancee, I wouldn't be leaving it to twice a week. Who does that? How would that make one look needy or clingy? If she's your future wife to be, surely you'd wanna talk to her daily if possible even if it's just by text.
Not true... to each their own i guess.
I got engaged a couple of months back and have only called her like 3-4 times.. I'm not much of a talker so i usually text her like 3-4 days a week maybe less when i feel like i can actually carry on a conversation.. yes i do think about her all the time but i dont know what to talk about.
haha!