I need some ideas to make my hubby happy.. doesn’t have to be anything too grand… just ideas
The few that I have thought of so far (and I have never done these before, but one is already in motion) -
candlelight dinner at home.. I was thinking of getting food from his favorite restaurant (I don’t want to cook cuz he always has home cooked food and I want him to really enjoy it). Buy a few candles, light them up at night, take out the food and table set everything, with some soft music in the background?
send him a delivery of fruit/chocolate, he loves those in general.
write him a love letter expressing my feelings to him ( I may give it to him during the dinner.. or randomly another day)
anything else? Clearly I suck at this
I just want some ideas to show him how much I love him and care for him. We are going through some rough times and it’s very important I think for me to show some lovey-dovey gestures
I would for sure prefer no 1, If you dress really nice and take time to look really great would be nice too. Men are a bit needy and need a lot of reassurance so if you went out of your way to make him a great card about what you appreciate about him that would make him feel really good. Blind fold him at the door and then take him to the dinner. Buy him a few small gifts to go along with dinner. In my young days I would throw rose petals on the way to where ever.
Whenever I get gifts for my wife and children I make them close their eyes first, closing the eyes heightens anticipation and excitement. So what is the occasion?
All of the mentioned options are temporary. The best way is to take interest in his interests, activities etc. Be a part of his day (& night ofcourse). And dont be a miser in expressing your love for him. I’m sure he’ll appreciate that.
It’s a sad occasion.. as I mentioned, we have hit a rough patch .. and I already express my love all day and night to him.. but I feel like I need to do a little extra, as I am not exactly the romantic kind, I am mainly verbal (as in, I make sure to tell him I love you countless times in a day, and hug him whenever I see him, and always take care of what he wants for food, or what he wants to watch on tv etc etc).
and yes, these are all temporary, but they still mean something.. its the sweet gestures I want to do..
blindfolding to the dinner is a great idea, thank you
I don’t care how cheesy anything sounds, I’ll do it if it shows him even a little bit that I care..when you love someone, the cheesy or not… it doesn’t matter, its only about love
(as in, I make sure to tell him I love you countless times in a day, and hug him whenever I see him, and always take care of what he wants for food, or what he wants to watch on tv etc etc).
Most men I know don’t get all that caring^^Dont allow anyone to take you for granted.
when we got married - actually, maybe even a little before .. i made this rule.., every time you leave the house (for an outing or work, whatever), a hug and kiss goodbye is required, same for when you come home.. same for when going to sleep, basically anytime you are leaving (or coming back) for a period of time somewhere.. its just something we built
and now, im just so sad, and constantly praying to God, to get our love back together,.. its so hard .. im trying anything i can think of
What about booking a romantic day or weekend for the both of you? You can book a couples spa day where both of you get massages, facial etc.? Or book a weekend getaway at a resort so it’s something totally different that the daily usual routine.
Does he have any hobbies? Any activities that he enjoys doing (either by himself or with his friends)?
I think he’ll feel a little wierd about a facial, but I know he’d love a massage !! I’ll see if I can find something like that for us..
I was thinking of a getaway weekend as well, just not sure where, so I didn’t look anything up.
hobbies, not really.. he likes cricket, and hookah, and hanging out with friends during the week.. thats about it.. the rest of the time, we spend together at home, watching tv, or fixing up our place etc
And this is why desi girls are a gift to mankind, a white girl would have gutted and skinned him by now. So what does he do to appreciate and to please you. Sometimes Nakhra and hard to get works better than bending over.
My wife was very submissive and I sat her down and taught her to fight back, now I run for cover. Why this need to kiss up? Is he like sculpted like a Greek god or a billionaire?
funny, he taught me to be the same.. i was very introverted, (still have it a little in me), and he taught me how to fight back too, it’s because of him I ever got married to him in the first place, we had to fight our families to be together.
anyway
no, he is none of those things. he is simply my husband. I did something to hurt him, and I need him back, to show him I know I was wrong yet, I love him more than anything. one day he pushes me away, the other he’ll stand there waiting for a hug before I leave the room.. another day he will barely smile, but the next he’ll laugh and joke around. one day he told me himself, dont give up, it wont be easy, i hope things get better too.
I’m so confused, I don’t know if our relationship will ever get fixed. and i will wait for it to be fixed, but I dont know for how long? sometimes i think he is just here for the sake of being here, and thats it?
I don’t get any “I love you too” anymore from him, its only sided, when i tell him, and that’s okay, i’ll wait. once i asked him, will i ever hear the other end of that phrase? he said, i dont know.
I’m so upset. I keep praying and praying, for Allah to help me.
I am not sure what you could have done to deserve that, my wife had done something very horrible to me and you have to decide if you have to move on or to forgive and make the relationship thrive. Love is about accepting the good with the bad. I hope he realizes how blessed he is. Many people die without being ever loved.
moving on, loving me again, all that is on him.. i have already decided thats what i want to do.. and i dont know how long im supposed to wait for him.. i dont know the future, and i dont know if he will choose me again.. right now, we are kinda in limbo… sometimes great, like normal.. other times, the elephant gets fatter and fatter in the room
i dont know what your wife did either, but im glad you choose her, and im hoping your relationship is much better… i pray mine is the same… its the waiting thats killing me.. but even more so, that he may never choose me..
im planning on doing something for him - for us, on new years eve, hopefully it works.. even waiting 2 weeks is going to be very hard, let alone, him turning me down, because there is a possibility of that.. i dont know what i’d do if he does reject me.. if he accepts me, then that will be great obviously, otherwise, i will be devastated
Good for you, you fight for what you want but don’t become a doormat, real men like a woman who can stand up for herself. He would be a fool to walk away from love, it is not easy to find real love. I wish you the best, if my boyz have a partner like you, I will forever thank the almighty.
