ok Cafetarians This serious topic i should have posted in LIFE1 but I know we have Much Better and Sensible guppies around here in Cafe than wana be smart and sensible in Life1
So, i have this dilemma of my fren who is also a student in med school with me. She is masha’allah good looking and a good muslim. The thing she was about to get engaged with this dude after this semester finished, which is in December. She was sincere with him and this DUDE i would say pretended to be sincere but now today he called everything OFF!!
The reason is: This dude’s ex-girl came back and she fought with my fren accusing her to steal her ex-bf Then later when my fren and this dude had a talk about it…my fren end up asking whther he still has feeling for that girl or not by which he got offended and called everything OFF!
Ok, now I have questions to my fellow cafetarians that:
1 ) What my fren did was wrong, asking that MORON whether he still have feelin for his ex?
2) Is it sensible to involve in relationship while you are in med school?
3) To cafetarian guppans, how would you have dealt with this situation?
4) To cafetarian Guys, wats ur input about it?
Well, as her fren, I end up telling her being in Med school and as a med student we shouldn’t be actually getting into relationship that seriously because it effects our studies. Plus, being in a med school is a huge commitment and demand sacrifice from soo many things in life. So, at least for next 4 yrs of our lives we r damn commited to our books and with the aim of helping humanity, Insha’allah.
One last Question: What are your thoughts about it if u r not in med school, would it be different than the way i put it??
who on earth told u being a med student u shud not indulge into relationships?? you certainly gota visit my med school and u’ll see 3 of my classmates r married(all r 21yrs old)…one is engaged…and one of them is even pregnant (3months) and almost all the gals are dating…well i dont know how serious are they about the replationships..but i personally feel med studies is just like any other studies..and u gradually get used to studyin and u dont really feel like oh-my -God-im-doin-medicine..kinda stuff!!i agree u gota b commited to studies but 24/7 commitment is not really required!!! getting into relationships is perfectly normal irrespective of what u r studying!!!
ok let me answer ur questions :
1 ) What my fren did was wrong, asking that MORON whether he still have feelin for his ex?
i must say ur friend is quiet sensible to actually ask that guy if he has feelings for his ex. the thing is when u r a teenager (i assume ur fren to b 17-18yrs old) u dont really think in depth and tend move with the flow but ur friend had courage to bring forward such a question..yes she is right!!!
2) Is it sensible to involve in relationship while you are in med school?
yep being a med student myself personally i feel its perfectly normal to b in a relationship…its not like u have to stick around with books all the time!!!
3) To cafetarian guppans, how would you have dealt with this situation?
i think i wud simply dump him and move on in life…i know its not that easy but its alwayz good to move on rather than sticking around with something which has no outcome. infact as a good muslim ur friend shud thank Allah for saving her from such a moron..
To cafetarian Guys, wats ur input about it?
ok let the guys answer that!
oh bechari
but u know what?? at least she got rid of the loser before things really started getting involved
and the whole med school thing--- i think it depends on where u attend and how much u can juggle and how committed u are to studies or personal life
but now today he called everything OFF!!
Then later when my fren and this dude had a talk about it…my fren end up asking whther he still has feeling for that girl or not by which he got offended and called everything OFF!
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