Just wanted your opinion on this. The other day I was on the internet chatting, this guy I was chatting to after finding out that I was married started calling me baji. I didnt think that was appropriate
because I have only spoken to this guy once and it was a very general conversation. I asked him why he was calling me baji and he said that all muslim married women were his sisters.
I beg to differ. I have a younger brother and I love him more then life. I would not call any nut off the block my bhai because he would then be in my munay’s category. I just dont think everyone is good enough to be called bhai (I mean there are allot of perverts out there
). I told the guy I was chatting with this, that I do not think you have to name everyone a sister or lover, you can be friends. In return he gave me this leture about in islam. Im kinda confused, he is kinda right and kinda wrong, my munna (my younger brother) is munna and no one is of his status.
what do you think?
i'de prepare it if some1 called me baji or bahain becouse it shows they respect u enough to call u there sis, i hate it wen ppl on the net want more then friendship, and u know u're not the only one there chattin 2, i'm 18 and if i by chance be chattin 2 some1 thats 15 he'll ask if dats ok, it's fine by me cause i only want friendship it's them that want more
well for me... if i want to have a relationship with a girl as a friend and nothing more as an indication of my motives i might say that she was like my sister. i.e someone who is your friend and you motives are not to have a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. And also it is the ultimate form of respect. I dont see why there is a problem unless a girl likes someone more then a friend and the guy calls her his sister. Its also a good way to tell someone you are not interested in a more-then-friend relationship.
i dont know if i'm being a westernized bigri hui larki or what.....but i do not appreciate being called behen by strangers.....i mean i''m m brothers and sisters behan or baji.......not someone elses....for other i can be their friend or whatever....but not behan...u know my name....call me by it....baji is a word of respect so no prob there.....
"If u must make a mistake, make a new one each time"
I think what I meant to say is that the relationship between a brother and sister is sacred and very intimate, sorry for sounding so snotty but I dont think everyone out there is good enough to share that with me....
as for wanting something more then a friendship...I DONT THINK SO !
Referring to females as “Behn, or Baji” is part of our Culture, and it should not be confused with blood relations.
How about priests being addressed as Brothers and nuns as Sister in Catholic faith? I guess you will have objection to that, Santa Maria de la Mohn Phuta unaware ela Pakistani customs.
but that doesn’t mean otherz can’t call u BAJI..itz a way of showing respect!..and if u don’t feel like being a sister 2 any1 else except ur munna bhai then i feel sorry 4 u!..
Whatever limits us we call fate!
Whatever we can’t change we call destiny!
Hows that for a flipside. Till now, I had seen guys who flipped out when a girl called them bhai, because according to them, that killed their chances of having more than a normal friendship with that girl. But thats just a side note.
About the topic, calling a stranger 'bhai' or 'behen' doesnt make them one, and it doesnt forbid u from marrying them. Thats the only religious connotation thats attached to it. Otherwise its merely a respectful way to address someone, just like u call elders uncle or auntie, no matter what their relationship is to you.
Noone is denting your relationship with your siblings by calling u baji or bhaijan. Your original relationship stays. But if you feel threatened by it, you can always forbid the person from calling u baji or sister. I personally feel it amounts to nitpicking. Whats the big deal about it.
just because ur letting someone call u baji doesnt mean that person is trying to take ur siblings' place. Its all about respect. I mean, dont most Pakistanis call their parents' friends, neighbours etc, uncle/auntie?? Doesnt mean they're my real khala or something. Its just a way of addressing people in a less impersonal, western way..
What are trying to prove wrong here, your self or the guy?
I can clearly see why he called you sister/baji and I can see it from a religion prospective.
But I don’t see why are you stressing it over?
I would like you to ask your husband a question! Ask your husband, what would he rather see you doing?
Chatting with a male friend?
Chatting with a guy that calls you baji and shows you respect because you are married?
Even if a perverted person calls you a sister or baji, you should be glad because he has no perverted intention towards you! In other words, you are safe!
On one aspect! I find it very limiting when one calls you such thing, but you don’t have to worry about that because you’re married.
And yeah! Why will a perverted person call you sister in the first place?
a1shah, kabhee tameez say bhee baat kur lia kuroe.
she just wanted to know what others think on the issue.. i always wondered too what a girl would think if i called here behen, sis, or bajeee..
I'd say that Youngbrat gave his say on this with all it's worthwhile.
M&M, i know for myself, i would prefer it if someone referred to me as baji or whatever .. regardless of it being chat or not.
Guys, if i'm correct, isnt' it also in the Punjabi culture...that men who're older, refer to younger ladies as bajis. Just out of respect, no? Now that, i think, is...well..really sweet. To say it one way.
The fact of the matter is that these same women have no trouble conversing with non-muslims but when one member of our ummat - a muslim - calls them sister - they don't like it.
They are lafangas, wagera, wagera.
Again, I don't know Maria so I am not accusing her. Pls do not jump on my case. However, I have seen many such cases where muslim women do purdah from muslim men but roam hijab-free amongst the non-muslims.
I am absolutely OK with being called a baji or a bahain. It certainly is respectful and gives me a feeling of pride.
Besides, all Muslims are brothers and sisters.So, I really don't see any thing wrong with being referred as a sister.