In a busy life where u dont even get more than 10 minutes to sit with each other.. how does one let their significant other know how much they mean to them?
once in a while spend 12 min with her.
lol isn't that too upto the minute, I mean "kidhar ja rahay ho"?, "12 minutes ho to gae hain!".....?
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lol.. sounds a bit like my life hehe
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I think if that what you have between you and your special person (whoever may they be) is true, you don't needs words to describe it to them, but I am yet not married and I might even be wrong but thats what I have to say. :)
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^ ummm true u dont need to spell it out. But sometimes, when ur caught up in the chaos of life, u just really need to be told.. "im still here.. and i love you" not in so much words.. but i guess just need a reminder.
Its like a child... u need to give them a hug and kiss to let them know mama and daddy are still here. I dunno if my daughter understands everything yet.. but if shes upset, i'll babble on and on letting her know how shes my jaan and bla bla..
I think as adults, we need that type of silly affection too :)
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take time out for one another, make a date. and on a daily basis small gestures help
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^ thats a good idea. We always say it but never happens.
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busy life is good. a good spouse will admire that. because she or he will know that busy now means, restful later.
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Notes? Emails? Lunch dates? Text messages? Surprise him with something crazy?
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^ we do that mostly. We send each other more emails than anyone else.. sad really.
A date sounds nice.. Should arrange that.
I remember we arranged a lunch date a few months back.. was funny... i felt all giddy agian
I ve found notes to be very useful to get the message across.
But its kind of sad that life has become so so busy n fast that one need to arrange time for spouse really. This is the only reason I am of opinion that if husband is earning decent living then wife should not work. Woman's job at home is a 24/7 job and on top of that if she working then I really feel sorry for poor creature. I dont think there is anything called balancing between work and home. Its a compromise where at the end of day home is suffering, and by home I am hubz and kids.
I know there will be situation where one has to but there are more incidents where they can survice without having her to work.
I get more strong on this point now when I see ay looking after Hasan. She is just shattered by the end of the day. And I respect and admire her effort alot.
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Keep in touch however you can. Talk on the phone, e-mail, send notes. Even cute notes written on nice stationary placed in his wallet or some other surprise location, its always a pleasant surprise. Date night is also important, if you can drop the baby off with grandparents for 1 night each week and just go out, chill, relax...linger over ice cream...anything, its well worth it. Try to do things together on the weekends...even if its household chores...etc....you know.
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Share a common calendar like the team calendar you have at work. that way you can find a lot of opportunities to be together.
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i think after a while you have to step back and realize where is your life going..
are you both really that busy or are we just not trying that one extra bit that takes it from "i am too busy" to "i have time to have a chat with you" state..
don't get me wrong.. i know life these days is hectic, managing a family isn't easy, savings aren't that easy to come and we need to work twice as hard to earn that. but at the end, if we are doing all that for "family" without family time, then what's the use?
The hardest part is not to earn the dollars, its to spend quality time with your freinds/family.
PS: Setup a scheduled date with your hubby on certain days.
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Life will always be hectic. Its upto YOU to make time from your busy schedule.
Life will always be hectic. Its upto YOU to make time from your busy schedule.
Not for some people, but that can be a bad thing too, they get bored! Also, the fact that their lives arent as hectic, they have less stress and live alot longer, which results in more boredom.
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Guys, where are we heading?
^ we do that mostly. We send each other more emails than anyone else.. sad really.
A date sounds nice.. Should arrange that.
I remember we arranged a lunch date a few months back.. was funny... i felt all giddy agian
Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww...you guys are still in love!!!! Mashallah!
Lunch dates are nice because its a break with your husband and a good time to talk about just stuff. You're not worried about kids and home so time to focus on you two.
My idea would be to pencil it in at least once a week. That way, if either of you have to do a business lunch, it doesnt interfere with your plans for each other. You know Wednesdays are already blocked off for lunch with hubby. You can have a favorite place or pick different ones throughout the area. Try doing a picnic lunch if the weather is nice...he brings the drinks and blanket and you bring the food. Needless to say, you will look fabulous on these lunch dates. ;)
One idea I used to love is taking turns doing the planning. Once a month, do a date with each other. Any more often gets a little pricey. But you guys have to take turns planning out the date. One month he takes it and the next month is yours. It was usually the 2nd weekend of the month and that Saturday night. This way, you have ample time to find a sitter if you need one and rearrange calendars. :)
Just a few ideas...
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make weekends special! go out for breakfast or coffee, even running errands together will give you more than 10 minutes together, and have a dedicated date night once a week if you can manage, or as psquared said, even monce a month. its really important you make time for each other and stick to that instead of letting other events get in the way.