Bunny Boiler Issue

Lifestyle Relationships
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This is something that’s been niggling at me for agessss but in the last six months or so it’s gotten far worse - a bunny boiler who won’t leave my other half alone :mad: She calls him on a witheld number and when he answers just doesn’t say anything, basically stalks him and just found out she’s even gotten a tattoo of his name put on her arm!! Obviously no-one would be crazy enough to get a tattoo unless they really believed they were going to end up with that person.. I’m at the point now where I really want to give her a slap.. What would be the best way to deal with this without getting myself into trouble?

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Do you personally know her? I hope your other half is not fueling her obsession. If you completely trust him have HIM talk her out of this. Make sure you are with him at the time. I would say ignore the whole thing. I had something similar happened to my husband (I don't blame her, he is very handsome :D ), he couldn't care less about the situation. He let her get tired with her attempts, she eventually gave up.

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Why cant your better half talk to her?

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wow, some people have guts or what :eek:

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I am pretty sure he's not fueling it, the obsession seemed to start after he turned her down a couple of years back.. We live in a small-ish town where everyone knows each other and some of her own friends told me this.. I was also with my other half a few times when he'd tell her to f*ck off over the phone at the beginning and would hear her in tears.. Since then I've tended to turn a blind eye to it thinking eventually it would stop.. The tattoo thing has made me furious tho.. As I said he's had a go at her a few times over the phone in front of me and I've been told by others that he says to her face that he's not interested but it's like she has tunnel vision..

I don't know her personally but I know of her..

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How does your SO feel about her? If he's disturbed by her actions, he should have a talk with her. To some small extent he might be flattered by her feelings, but I doubt that he finds the persistent silent phone calls attractive...it's immature and creepy. Talk to him about confronting her and maybe change your number. As for the tattoo....there's nothing you can do about that. What matters most (despite her actions) is that he's faithful to you.

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Deebs, do you know any of her friends or family members? How about explaining the situation to one of them...maybe take some concrete proof with you (besides the tattoo, lol).....and ask them to reason with her.

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That response is valid if the other option is even a remote chance. Better response would, leave me alone.

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You can complain to phone company and they will be able to trace the call and take action against this stalker. So have I heard , I have no personal experience.

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Hehe, sounds almost exactly what happened to my hubby. She DID eventually give up when she got married.. To this day she keeps trying to befriend him on facebook. I have never spoken to her but I saw her at his cousin's wedding a few months ago and she had the nerve to send me a facebook invite. lol. She was such a creep, she befriended his best friend to keep a close eye on my husband through his friend. I fully trusted my hubby with this. This went on for a good 5 or 6 years. She is married now and still asks around about my husband. I got such dirty looks from her at the wedding. My hubby is so funny though, he got all lovey dovey with me there and then to piss her off. lol

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Give him the best ahem ahem and tell him he won't get anymore unless she backs off.

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is her name nomica?

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stop scandalizing nomica just because he has the name "jamal" tattooed on his arm.

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Then give her a slap. :k:

And I liked queer and TLK’s post just to fulfil a ritual Nomi likes doing a lot.

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what if she slaps back? and deeba's teeth fall out? i say no slaps. let the guy decide who he wants?

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dear oh dear...

why do people make others life SO miserable.. and SO annoying..

life is so short.. live it up.. jore bante hai asamano mein.. she can't have him and thats it..

GET OVER IT ALREADY! (to the other girl who keeps bugging him) :)

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Hmm how to get a bunny boiler to go away - he obviously needs change his number.

Secondly you need a) release a wild bear into her house b) throw stink bombs at her In the street

Lol - erm or alternatively - try to set her up with a friend of a friend - or something to distract her! Buy her a puppy!

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What is a bunny boiler?

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^ I’m wondering the same thing. :hmmm:

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Bunny boiler is a pejorative term for an obsessive and dangerous person, referring to a former lover who stalks the person who spurned them. The term is normally used for a woman who stalks a male former lover.

The term derives from a scene in the 1987 film Fatal Attraction **where a scorned woman, seeking revenge on her ex-lover, kills his daughter's beloved pet rabbit and places the deceased animal in a pot of boiling water when he is away from home.