@Psquared the same thing happened to two of my cousins. Basically to get the point across to them we told them it was for the joy of the family so it was okay if they did not want to come and participate as we understood their principles but loads of people from diff countries were coming to the wedding so we did a family only mehndi. Try to reach a understanding at both families understand. Also how does ur future hubby to be feel about this ????