brother in law threatening my sister. help.

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Re: brother in law threatening my sister. help.

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Re: brother in law threatening my sister. help.

let me guess....they're falling "ill" and will be "cured" as soon as the complaints about her marriage stop...and judging by the fact that they pressured her into a crappy life, the complaints will stop by her being a doormat.

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Re: brother in law threatening my sister. help.

so whats the solution?

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Re: brother in law threatening my sister. help.

So let me get this straight..

  1. Your sister agreed to marry her cousin in Pakistan because her future MIL was dying and her dying wish was that her son was married to your sister
  2. All parties agreed and the marriage took place in Pak.. on the condition that as she is 19 she would return to the UK to complete her studies.
  3. A few months later the guy turns back on his words and DEMANDS that she return to Pak and then THREATENS to divorce her if she does not return to Pak.

(Even at this point the solution to this problem/scenario is obvious. He’s threatening her with divorce for crying out loud! So if she complies and goes back to Pak, over what else is he going to threaten to divorce her again over? “If you don’t make my tea NOW, I’m going to divorce you!”, “You put too much chilli in my dhal, that’s it, I’m divorcing you!”..)

      4.   The family has gotten together to try and *resolve  *the situation? (What’s to resolve? The guy and his family are Psychos, no resolution to that).
 5.  His family are swearing, cussing your parents and sister
 6.  To say your parents are “dis-pleased” with the current situation is an understatement.

So now, having got the facts, here is my advice..

Your parents should be thinking of this innocent little girl whose life will undoubtedly be scarred by this (avoidable and) tragic situation. They shouldn’t be bothered about what the guy and his family are saying to the rest of the world and his dog. What matters is your sister and how this will affect her. THERE IS NO WAY SHE CAN EVER HAVE A HAPPY MARRIAGE TO THIS GUY, it’s just not possible. He swears to his parents, he overlooks his brothers and fathers infidelities, he has no respect for no-one, least of all your sister. He’s already making threats and he’s displayed little self-control and composure which (to me) signify a propensity to be abusive towards others.

Your parents got her into this mess, they should be the ones to get her out of it. Instead of sitting down with the heads in their hands and faking illness, they should be doing whatever it takes to end this marriage regardless of what material lossess will be incurred. What’s more important to them, worldly goods, or the happiness of their daughter?

19 is such a young age and she has time on her side to bounce back from this. There is no sense in thinking that her life will be ruined if she gets divorced; her life will be more ruined if she goes back to that psycho!!

Your parents need to realise that no matter how much family intervention takes place, the guy will never change and will never treat your daughter the way a wife should be treated. Any promises he makes of changing his ways are empty and attempting to make him see the errors of his ways his futile. There is no possibility of salvaging anything good from this marriage, it is doomed and doomed good and proper; and the sooner your daughter is out of it, the better for everyone involved!

So with all the above in mind, divorce really is the only option. I mean, what is the alternative? Hope he’ll change? Ur deluding yourself and the daughter! Hope time and fresh perspective will calm their anger and they’ll be more decent and respectable people and learn to treat their Wife/DIL/SIL well? Yeah, right(!)..

The solution to this sorry dilemma is get divorced…

And the lesson for everyone else here is.. DO YOUR FLIPPING RESEARCH BEFORE MARRYING YOUR DAUGHTERS OFF!!..
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