my sister got married only because her MIL was suffering from kidney failure and was told she was not going to live long. my parents also agreed and so did she, altjhough i told them not to marry him, ( hes a cousin, mum is my mums sister), anyway so after all the stress they put us through, put my parents through, they begged us to marry her off to them shes only 19, she was studying, my mum said ok as long as goes back to uk and studies ( hes a pakistani) , they agreed,
now, hes threatening her with divorce, saying if she doesnt go back to pak, he will cut off all ties, he swears at her, he hacked into her friends facebook and email accounts, and told her she was yusing her friends account to chat to boys, he accused her of wearing jeans?? cheating, lieing etc etc and god knows what else. just because she isnt going back to pak. he hasnt got a job and he sits around all day hacking into peoples acclounts, he told her to give him the password for her email, otherwise he would get into it anyway. the whole family is nuts., the dad goes around lieing about everyone, the older brother is a divorcee twice, his second divorce was due to him having an affair with the wife sister…sick.
anyway, im worried for my sister,shes only 19, yes its my parents fault for marrying her off just for a sick woman, who died in may by the way, they married in april, the guys 25. but apart from blaming my parents who had good intentions, i dont know what to tell her or advise her. hes a nutcase.
hacking is a crime right? even in pak? i know in uk it is.
I'm confused as to what the "problem" is? If the guy and his family is so horrible....then the guy wanting to divorce her is a GOOD thing! Why would you want your sister to spend the rest of her life with a guy like that? Heck she herself should file for divorce, finish her studies in the UK and move on. She's only 19.....it's not like she's "too old" to find another DECENT guy!
How weak can people be? What kind of a family are you people? Marrying off a 19 year old girl just because an old hag was dying of kidney failure? For the love of Allah, show some spine and kick him out!
Better yet, spend a couple hundred pounds and get the crap beat out of this guy before sending him back to his beloved country.
she is 19 and has 5 months of dealing with a horrible individual
why sentence her to dealing with it for years and decades
boot the guy out, he can threaten all he wants, she should divorce him and boot his butt back to Pakistan.
Urgh, you parents basically ruined her life, now it's their job to fix it. Somebody dying is NO excuse for a 19-year-old to get married, heck, it is no excuse for anyone to get married. Please ask your parents to fix it, get her divorced, the guy is obviously a crazy, psycho, insecure control-freak. She is only 19, I'm sure she can easily get married again, especially since there are no kids involved.
Exactly. Get your parents involved, get the divorce, and thank God you have a way out of this terrible marriage.
And don't be stupid next time.
I completely agree!! The fact that she is only 19 and has her whole life ahead of her should be of a lot more importance than her being divorced at such a young age because lets be honest this was not a real marriage it was an agreement to someone's wish. Please get her out of this mess because she will have a wonderful life ahead of her iA and no one will even remember this happened but she will suffocate and suffer badly if you guys keep her in the marriage just for the sake of what everyone will say. I hope iA that you guys can get her out of this asap and that your parents support this decision.
In case your mom is worried that the guy is a relative, just ask her if that's more important to her or her daughter's life. And in any case, your sis is an adult. Tell her to take charge of her life.
So Niksik has called her an adult, yet everyone here is saying how could you marry of a 19 yr old. ?
Hmm, anyway, I did say to my parents, as did my husband, NOT to marry her off to them. I have no idea what made them do it. my mum sister, whose now died, was her older sister. could be out of respect, our parents generation still seem to do funny stuff as long as their elder sibling is asking them to do it, they will. I must say, my parents both refused many times. But the guy himself, appeared tobe well mannered, decent. He seemed to be the good one out of a fairly odd family. In the beginning of the marriage, when she was in pakistan with him, he was lovely to her, well at first. But soon he changed. or showed his true colours.
He isnt in uk, hes still in pakistan, and he doesnt want to come here, he wants her to come there and because she isnt, hes threatening her.
yes, divorce sounds so easy. i wish it was. theres alot more at stake though. its harder to actually go through with it. in the mean time they are not on speaking terms. i do want to be the braver one and tell mum this advice, but im also worried about my sister. its a harrowing position to be in, a divorcee at 19.
