i more or less agree with Rasmalaii, your brother doesn't need your parents approval to marry her - we do this out of love and respect for our parents. if he has his heart set on her, you should help him in convincing your parents not to delay if anything.
Yeah and that's exactly what I'm saying. I can go meet her up all I want and so can my sister. Till my parents approve of it, my bro's getting no signal. It's a different story that he goes ahead anyways and does what he wants. It's a compromise eitherways. He can either please my parents and hate his wife, and that would never make my parents or us happy. Or he can choose to go and marry her rightaway which wont make my parents happy either cuz he did what they didn't want him to RIGHT NOW. And again, cuz of that we would all hold grudges against his gf/wife so the situation wouldn't change. If they let him date and choose who he wanted to marry, they wouldn't be conservative, now would they be? The other thing is the family racial difference. We're urdu speaking, and she's not... Tons of other issues. Like I said, I'm indifferent.
And for all I know, they might've already done a secret paper-marriage/ nikah.. who knows!! See, you can't please everyone. That is why I would rather watch out on my sister while I can.