Yeah we've been down that road too. My parents have a say in this but obv it's all upto my brother to do what he does. As for my parents approval, it may come at some point, but definitely not right now. He's still too young for marriage with our family standards. Most of the guys in my family get married late 20's. It's just been that way. I mean my bro's tried talking to my parents to take a rishta to her place and what not. They just say "all in good time". Right now he has to focus on his school. Which is also true. If he doesn't graduate, get a job, he can't support the larki anyways. And yeah, that's all VERY essential before we accept a rishta in our family, or send one :)
And I've seen tons of guys and girls married who are really not mature enough to handle inlaws and everyday life which happens after you've gotten comfortable with the newly married phase. This is why perhaps my parents are not sending in their approval. And given my bro's volatile nature, they're prolly right. He still needs a lot of growing up. But that's not the point. I just don't want my sister to be associated as someone's gf.
And you all hate me for being a typical sil. Someone or the other will eventually hate my sister too. She could have a happy secure life too like I did. Dating doesn't always end up happy!
Okay, someone enlighten me as to HOW on earth your little sister would be associated as someone's girlfriend? Hm? Over reacting a bit?
Ive seen tons of guys and girls get married in blindly arranged marriages...some of which are on this very forum and end up SEVERELY unhappy.
Look at it this way:
If you decide to get involved then you will only be seen and hated as the SIL that cant seem to stay out of the drama and just wants a piece of it for herself. Its not your life and definitely not your place to be telling on your brother - especially if he is intending on marrying this girl.
What you could do again, is maybe try to do some damage control. You say your parents are diabetic and have health issues and you are worried about them? Why are you going to stir up trouble if you are so concerned about their well being? Why would you not want to do what is best for both parties and try to help your parents by calming them down? Your place is not opposite of your brother, its next to him and your parents. How old are you? Why am I explaining your responsibilities to you? Even your thread title reeks of immaturity..."my brother's irritating girlfriend" And by the way, you havent mentioned a single thing she has done that would affect YOUR life in an irritating way. Its YOUR BROTHER that is misbehaving by taking his sister out and hanging out with girls.
You want to talk about family values? What kind of family values is your brother displaying by dating? Is this how you guys were raised? In your home, dating is okay'd by parents?????
I feel sorry for your brother's girlfriend, she has no idea what she is about to get herself into and is blindly believing your brother. Maybe you should refer her to this forum so she can make her own decision if SHE wants to have anything to do with YOU.
From where Im sitting, it doesnt seem like she will be losing much if she does end up rejecting your family.