Broken Engagement

[Zamzam123]

Re: Broken Engagement

@PyariCgudia

Part of the problem is we girls expect guys to be a combination of bollywood hero, and responsible mard as depicted in stoic PTV dramas with business suit and briefcase and bye-bye sweeties in the morning.

It’s not like that. Guys are mostly oafs in our culture. Power lies in their momma’s hands.

Haha, I think that’s why the girls with most success at marriage in our community are the silent docile ones. In the face of male madness in our community, a strong woman has little chance. If the girl just keeps her mouth shut and goes along with it, any marriage scenario will end up working out, because you’re just not putting up a fight when things don’t go your way. The guy and his family always get their way and everyone is happy.

Now if you don’t want that kind of relationship, like many of us, then yeah these kinds of mommy’s boys are not gonna be appealing, and really shouldn’t be.

You seem like a strong girl. I know what it’s like to get rejected, have a rishta break, have a guy do a 180 on your, have a guy distance himself because he mistakes your strength and resolve for “craziness”. You eventually pick up the pieces, and you do move on, and you usually meet better people as you keep going.

Sorry what do you mean 'have a guy do 180?

i thought I was strong headed until this situation, I feel total like my confidence has totally gone.

In Shaa Allah I hope I get through it. Thank you for replying