I don’t think it was a joke for their family. Some people don’t have great social skills. That family seems to be numero uno on that list. They may have good intentions, but they don’t know how to cope with disagreements.
He doesn’t sound like he was a match for you. He probably needs a girl who has an iron fist and will have him and his mom on a tight leash. That’s what those kinds of people need, a bahu who has a set of iron balls.