Bride and Groom's Own Dance Number

[terebina786]

Re: Bride and Groom’s Own Dance Number

@Sammii

yes, i definitely dislike those suggestive and seductive dance numbers . Mehendis and Shadis should be all about innocent fun and family and not become events to hit on each other.

Like I said before, I don’t know what kind of dance you think people are doing at weddings lol. When me and my cousins danced at my cousin’s wedding it was innocent and fun and we even went as far as to pick “non-suggestive” songs like those token songs in movies.

@Reha

You know what I do remember that makes me a little sad?

I was really young…probably 13 or 14 and was at a wedding. It was a desi wedding and the bride and groom decided to dance. It wasn’t a choreographed number…just a first dance type thing and I thought it was fun. Bride and groom were fairly young and were enjoying themselves…they were in lowe I guess.

I heard an uncle say behind me “lo ji…mujra shuru hogaya”. I didn’t know what a mujra was at the time so asked my mom. My mom didn’t answer…ignored me and gave the uncle a mean look.

I felt bad for them and bad for him. Bad for them because someone decided to say something so horrible about them at their own wedding after eating their food. Bad for him because he wasn’t able to take part in their celebration without being negative.

Its true that at the end of the day you should do what you want to do because it is your day and you get to make the rules.

But I do think there is something to be said for propriety. Just making sure to take into consideration the audience which consists of fairly conservative people at times.

I agree.

@kakee

So being religious means you drop your culture (essentially dropping your identity imo) then doesn’t that mean you should all learn Arabic, forget about Urdu and never attend such haram weddings?

Culture as well as religion is adaptable and because it is fluid, it changes over time. Yes, 20years ago you didn’t have western concepts in your wedding but also 20years ago I bet you didn’t know many gori/goras.

Some may find PDA acceptable, some may not but there are also some that find the middle ground is ok.
In my opinion it is NOT religion who says kissing in unacceptable I think it is Asian culture. No matter where you go in Asia you won’t see many people showing affection towards each other even in Japan its frowned upon and we’re not religious at all.

I don’t care if an another couple kiss at their wedding, I will not be perhaps some people will shun me for holding my SOs hand while we sit and greet etc but knowing that it will calm me down I refuse to think about what others think.

Just because I hug the other sex won’t mean that I’ll sleep with them in a heartbeat and I definitely won’t be shaking my booty at them I think the only people who can do that are african americans and latinos.

Verdict from is that people who don’t want to dance won’t dance people who do will. Its a personal choice and one shouldn’t try to intimidate a happy couple for wanting to dance.

I agree and this whole notion of if I hold my fiance’s hand then OMG my cousin/friends/sister must be like that too is absurd.