Bride and Groom's Own Dance Number

[Sammii]

Re: Bride and Groom’s Own Dance Number

@Reha

You know what I do remember that makes me a little sad?

I was really young…probably 13 or 14 and was at a wedding. It was a desi wedding and the bride and groom decided to dance. It wasn’t a choreographed number…just a first dance type thing and I thought it was fun. Bride and groom were fairly young and were enjoying themselves…they were in lowe I guess.

I heard an uncle say behind me “lo ji…mujra shuru hogaya”. I didn’t know what a mujra was at the time so asked my mom. My mom didn’t answer…ignored me and gave the uncle a mean look.

I felt bad for them and bad for him. Bad for them because someone decided to say something so horrible about them at their own wedding after eating their food. Bad for him because he wasn’t able to take part in their celebration without being negative.

Its true that at the end of the day you should do what you want to do because it is your day and you get to make the rules.

But I do think there is something to be said for propriety. Just making sure to take into consideration the audience which consists of fairly conservative people at times.

Not sure, if roman urdu can be read by people. But this song comes to mind:

Kuch tou log kaheine geine
logon ka kaam hei kehna
choro bekaar ki baton ko
kaheen beet na jayeine reina.

Who cares what anybody says, if the bride and groom enjoyed and created a special memory, that is all that matters.