Bride and Groom's Own Dance Number

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Re: Bride and Groom’s Own Dance Number

@somegroovychick

hrm, i don’t really agree with this. a performance doesn’t equate bollywood automatically, and so long as you are surrounded by family and friends, your mehendi is going to memorable nonetheless. performances can be just as fun as a spontaneous dance, imho, or even more because the practices themselves can be a lot of fun and build anticipation and excitement for the event. and even if the couple want to put on a performance for their guests, why the objection? don’t you want your guests to have a good time at your mehendi?

I would certainly hope that all family and friends contribute nothing but good vibes at a wedding; unfortunately this is not always the case. Particularly when the two families getting together at a “love marriage” never saw eye to eye to begin with. So yeah…memorable is great…but it has to be for the right reasons na?

There are still families out there that believe dancing to “perform” in front of an audience is less than classy and best left to hired artists. I suppose it can be seen as an “elitist or snobby” attitude; it is what it is. The problem is that you put a family like this together with a family that wants every single moment of all the events to be orchestrated and you end up with a big fat mess.

@somegroovychick

this conversation, to me, stems from people insisting on having every single person they’ve ever met at their wedding and so you would have a bunch of people you hardly know at your event and then probably its not as comfortable because there are lots of loose mouths and gossip. if couples could keep their guestlists down to only the people who care about them, then we probably wouldn’t be having this discussion.

Absolutely!!!
If only…

@somegroovychick

but then do you also disagree with skits and other little fun things that people put on for the bride and groom at a mehendi? what about a luddi dance if performed by a group of people including the bride and groom and one that is rehearsed beforehand too?

No, not at all.
Skits, group dances by family and friends are all good.
Heck…drag the bride and groom into the mix spontaneously…even that is good.

@somegroovychick

as for nai rasmein, again, new doesn’t automatically mean bad, does it?

Nope.
There is nothing wrong with a new rasm.
I would have no objection as long as it is modest.
I’ve even witnessed a desi groom go for the garter on his desi wife of 2 hours…new rasm…and it sucked.

@somegroovychick

ultimately, i don’t think there is any “right” or “wrong” answer- just what you are comfortable with. weddings are highly personal events and we’ve all seen ones that we think are tacky or OTT, but someone else might think are classy and fabulous.

Agreed…there is no right or wrong answer when it comes to preferences; and the choices made are a reflection of your own taste.