Re: Bride and Groom’s Own Dance Number
Both of the above are major assumptions based on the idea that every single person out there must have the same identical values/moral and level of religious commitment. The reality of the situation is the every single family has their own idea on what’s acceptable and what’s inappropriate during a wedding. With desi weddings, majority of the couples and their parents will not do something if they’re aware that it would cause severe distress among the grandparents or the immediate social circle.
There are many families out there where love marriages are perfectly acceptable. Others still insist on the traditional 100% arranged route. Many families today are perfectly fine with desi brides wearing white (heck in rare cases even black!). Yet there are others who insist on the traditional red. The list goes on. Dancing is no exception. If a couple wants to dance at their wedding, and if both of their families are ok with it…then there is nothing wrong with it. If a guest at the wedding finds the idea horrifying and is offended by it beyond words…they can choose not to watch that horrendous “display of comfort”.
At the end of the day there will always be someone at every wedding who has something negative to say. At the end of the day, the couple needs to stay focused at making sure they, and their immediate family/friends are comfortable with everything going on. It’s impossible to please all 300/400/500 people that’re in attendence at ANY event.
P.S. Adding to Terebina’s words…I have no idea what type of dancing you guys think we’re talking about. I know at my Rumba, there was no a$s shaking or us grinding against each other. It was simply us gliding across the floor with foot steps and doing some turns. Most Indian weddings I go to generally do some type of ballroom/waltz type moves for the 1st dance. Going by the way its worded…it sounds like you guys are talking about some type of “couples gone wild” situation.