I have read a hadih which was something like “No Muslim is allowed not to talk his brother for more than three consecutive days.
Now the problem is my Bhabi have always issue with me,last time when I asked her why she said things about me then she made a bigger issue that im fighting her.
I mean even if I ask her politely she become defensive and she will complain that I’m fighting her.
And today yet again she said something about me to my sister and my mom,first I got mad and I thought I will tell her off but then I didn’t and now I have decided that I will never speak to her again.
Coz kuch kehne ka faida nahi..and I can’t act like double face people Jo dil Mai nafrat rakh ke ooper ooper se sahi se bat Karoo,
So I want to know in this case is it allow to break ties with someone? Like not to meet or speak to them ever again?
This is a conditional hadith. its not applicable if maintaining the ties result in further harm. It seems that your bhabhi is the kind of person, you are better off not having too much of interaction.
Also, 3 consecutive days period is in case you see the person every day, and decide not to talk. Like in my case, my real brother lives in another city, and many times its over a week before I talk to him.
We don’t talk everyday..sometimes I speak to her after 10/12 days.
My question is that i have decided not to talk her ever again. Coz if we will speak there will be more issue hence more family problem and more tension to brother ,bahan Ki sunay ya biwi Ki
Qur'aan meN jo aayaa hai vo hai...silla-e-reHmii ke sisile se...un se rishta munqat'a kar lenaa man'a hai...ya'nii vo rishte jo Khoonii haiN...jaise, bhai, bahen, cousins, uncles, aunts etc.
ahaaN…rishta toRnaa aur baat hai aur iKhtilaaf ke baa’is kuchh dinoN ke liye bol chaal kaa band ho jaanaa alag baat hai…dushmani kii Had tak jaa kar rishta toR lenaa Ghalat hai par thoRaa bahot to rishtoN meN naa-chaaqii to chaltii rahtii hai.
Just for few worldly words u don’t want to talk to your bhabhi
The pplz of ‘Taif’ thrown stone at Prophet Muhammad and do u remember what He did? He prayed to Almighty Allah that “O Almighty Allah! please guide them they don’t know me”.
So you may ask (make dua) Almighty Allah that “O Almighty Allah! plz guide her (naiki ki hidayat dain) and grant me more patience enabling me to not to break-up more than three days”.
LKK, I am not sure if 'Taif' example is a valid example.
More valid example is this one
There was Hazrat Wahshi radiyallahu anhu who was the one who killed Hazrat Hamza radiyallahu anhu. ** The Prophet sallallahu alaihe wasallam forgave Hazrat Wahshi radiyallahu anhu but he did say to him, "Do not to come in front of me, for when I see you, I remember my dear uncle, which upsets me greatly." **
LK bro it’s not just wordly words..in past she did same things and when I used to ask her she will complain and say I’m fighting her and blaming her.
And to be very honest mere jesi gunehghar ka to aesi PAK hastiyo jesa bara dil ho nahi sakta.
Last time bro said Mai kis Ki sunoo biwi Ki ya bahan Ki muje samjh nahi ata..then everything was ok I used to speak to her In good way then I sent her gifts ke uska dil saaf ho jaye..
But this time when she did that it’s clear she is not going to change or should I say her views for me are not going to change.
That’s why I have decided not to speak to her…
Taif example is related directly to Prophet b’coz He beared it by Himself but in example of Hazrat Hamza r.a., He suffered the pain of parting from him.
I understand breaking ties is not the best option.. But has anyone considered the religious aspect on being Treated unfairly? According to what I remember my dad used to say.. 'zulm Karne wala aur sehne wala dono gune gaar hai'
Correct me if I'm wrong.. Just a thought.
Jee Lk bro I have read this incident in class 3 or 4.
She is few months younger than me and I always treat her like my younger sister .and my mom says choro Aqal nahi hai us Mai uski baton ko kiya mind Karna.
Ok I will let this go this time,May Allah SWT guid her and me ameen.
I understand breaking ties is not the best option.. But has anyone considered the religious aspect on being Treated unfairly? According to what I remember my dad used to say.. 'zulm Karne wala aur sehne wala dono gune gaar hai'
Correct me if I'm wrong.. Just a thought.
Peace lady lama,
Plz define what is 'zulm'?
Jee Lk bro I have read this incident in class 3 or 4.
She is few months younger than me and I always treat her like my younger sister .and my mom says choro Aqal nahi hai us Mai uski baton ko kiya mind Karna.
Ok I will let this go this time,May Allah SWT guid her and me ameen.
Peace kinzz
Ameen. May Almighty Allah accepts ur deeds. Ameen.
Hey kinz :)
Kamikaze.. I think being treated unfairly, having ur besti done can count as a form of Zulm if u sit there and take it. Obviously if u stay patient for the sake of Allah that may have its own rewards but if by not speaking to her Bhabi she is not being ridiculed then so be it! I don't personally feel u will get gunaa for keeping away from certain people if they can't treat u with respect
Pardon me but being treated 'unfairly' and enduring 'Zulm' are two different things. If you would like to see from religious POV than 'unfairly' is like boycott or prefering one on another but 'Zulm' is where one is physically harassed.
If u are being treated unfairly it's ur duty to do something about it and not sit there waiting in hope for the person to stop harassing you.. This is my opinion, the word 'zulm' is simply a translation and can be looked at differently in English, Urdu and Arabic. It all depends on perception I guess.
& Peace kinzz,
and do u remember what He 