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biggest fear. I’m not from a very affectionate, huggy-kissy family so I find it really hard to be affectionate like that. I enjoy my space and the only time I hug people is…when I’m forced to hug aunties at dawats. Glad I’m not the only one!
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I can be affectionate so thats ok but the other stuff is a big no no for me. I don't care if its to show appreciation, in my books its rude and disgusting and should not be done!
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I hate it too, they take it as normal as anything. I am uptight about it as well. Guys are okay even mentioning for what purpose they are going to the loo .. err .. We are not really interested in such unnecessary information.
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I hate it too, they take it as normal as anything. I am uptight about it as well. Guys are okay even mentioning for what purpose they are going to the loo .. err .. We are not really interested in such unnecessary information.
exactly!
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LOL .. I was exactly thinking the same thing few days back that i ll loose this FREEDOM :D after marriage. I am sure my fiancee would be very uptight about it, but i am worried about the time when this issue will arise between us. You can't be careful around someone whose with you 24/7
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there was an episode about this in "How I met your mother"
with barney and his stripper gf :P
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there was an episode about this in "How I met your mother"
with bart and his stripper gf :P
Even barney had to go out of apartment for RELIEF :D
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ah damn I can't remember the names correctly
thanks
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biggest fear. I'm not from a very affectionate, huggy-kissy family so I find it really hard to be affectionate like that. I enjoy my space and the only time I hug people is...when I'm forced to hug aunties at dawats. Glad I'm not the only one!
Something to keep in mind is that your husband is not "any person", he is your "husband". It is all as much new for him as much it is for you. If he is making the effort to initiate hugs and cuddles, then you also have to make the effort of let go of your space, and enjoy the moment with him.
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Breaking the sound barrier???? :)
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I think there is a time and place for everything … I was quite careless about my bodily emissions until my wife told me off about them and I still didn’t give much importance to them until I found out that my religion expects me to have decorum and manners in these things … When I learnt from my Shaykh about manners I was stupified about how much care we really do need to take … If I ever have a bad stomach I try to go outside the room, but I don’t bother if I’m already half asleep … but I wish I could muster the effort to do it then also …
I think a lot of people do such things in public but many of them do so discretely and let go of soft ones and play dumb to it. My female cousin in Pakistan was doing some housework and she let a few loose very loudly in close succession while I was more or less right behind her brushing my teeth and her eldest son was also in the area … As she did so she said “ai ai ouch ouch ouch … as though it was hurting her” then she giggled whilst blushing and her son also sort of laughed in an annoyed sort of way … I was about to say “Koi baat nahein … meyda kaam kar raha hai” … but I chose otherwise … 
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I’d say probably a few months into living together…we just started becoming more comfortable. It’s unrealistic to think that you can be “on guard” 24/7 when living with your husband (or wife). Besides, for me personally, I had a medical scare that required me to have a colonoscopy a few months after we started living together. It was done at hubby’s hospital so him and his boss were present. After that experience, my threshold of shame/dignity changed quite a bit. :hinna: Spending several days thinking you may have cancer puts the shame of body functions into perspective real fast.
Spouses see you at your worse. I’m pretty sure none of our breath smells great 1st thing in the morning. None of us women look all that glamorous in the middle of the night. None of us look all that great if we’re sick. Spouses see it all. With farts and burps…it’s not like my hubby (or me!) do it intentionally. And sometimes it just happens! At times it’s impossible to physically delay it. So when it does…it’s not a big deal.
If any of you ladies truly managed to live your entire life so far without farting or burping even 1 single time in front of ANYONE (friends, parents, siblings, strangers in public places etc.)…than more power to you for that miraculous self-control. I just don’t know any man or women who has that type of power over their own body.
Besides, if you plan to give vaginal birth a try (and plan to have your hubby with you), you better get over this issue of body functions. Aside from all the other wonderful joys of labor, I hear (from my hubby and other women who’ve given birth) that pooping a little during labor is not unusual. 
I get teased saying that he’s going to announce it loudly in the room if/when it happens with me! 
Of course we’re careful when out in public and don’t go around farting/burping whenever we feel like it. It’s not difference inside the house. If it happens, it usually means we had no control over it.
BTW, the whole keeping-door-open-when-using-the-bathroom…I’m happy to say that in 2 years, we have no even come close to crossing that barrier. That’s 1 barrier I plan on keeping until I die (Thank GOD hubby agrees!). 
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Before I started living with my husband, I thought he was such a gentleman. However, after we got married he showed his true colors! He loves burping and farting and laughing at my reactions as he does this. =/ I'm not comfortable doing that stuff around anyone so yeah... he still hasn't left the door open when in the bathroom..but I have a feeling he won't care soon enough. His reasoning is that he has to act so proper and normal all the time, and he should be allowed to do whatever he wants in his own home lol.
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Mine does stupid gross stuff and uses the logic “You should be happy…I love you so much that I’m just very comfortable around you an don’t need to pretend” to justify his “boy humor”. 
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I know. What is wrong with our husbands? 
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Haha, that’s cute. Men…they’re so weird sometimes.
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toot 
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BTW, how come TLK hasn't made an appearance here? :(
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Yeah once you give natural birth with your husband standing right next to you holding your hand, the need to control bodily functions seems so trivial. I think it's different with a C section though.
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I swear those are the exact same words my husband uses too. Exact.