Oh my God. So he had another Pakistani wife and no one knew about it?
Basically what happened was it was a long engagement aprox 8 months. My friend lives in the uk the guy was studying in another country not the uk. From initial contact and talking when they met in Pakistan everything was fine and they liked each other. So the engagement went ahead. As he is a Pakistani citizen studying abroad it was decided he would come to the uk. So they did nakiah not wedding as he said he had exams and stuff to do, so did my friend as she was doing exams as well. So after nikah she came back and continued to make plans like work find a house etc. The guy kept on acting cold and saying it was his degree course getting stressful yada yada and he wanted to study more. So lets say it was 2 years after the nikah. when it was time for him to come here to the uk as everything was done then my friend found out from his family that he was not coming here as he had admitted he was married. So my friend wasted 3 years of her life on a loser and now she is divorced.
No he married some girl (gori) he met in Australia where he was studying. Truthfully i think he never had his heart in it as much as my friend did as he always had excuses fr so many things. I also really think he liked Australia and he really did not want to come the uk. I know this is gonna sound bad but to me it felt as his family was pushing for it more than him. Thats why i think people should be honest you know if you like someone or are involved with someone just tell your parents. So follow your gut feeling or heart. Also the marrige was annuled so it is fine. In a good way my friend got to study further now is gonna beome a barrister so there was a bright side o this.
Ive no idea what you're doing Arshad. If there is a problem and you sense it is big enough to break off an engagement, then the first person should be the one involved that you turn to. You're asking strangers who are not in the least affected by this problem to give you a solution. Of course, we all care and will do our best to help but dont you think you're being unfair to this girl, even hypothetically speaking???
You're having doubts and she may/may not be on Cloud 9 planning her wedding. She has no idea what is coming her way...dnt you think thats mean even if you dnt like the person enough to marry them?
These are online forums and we are all virtual to you...but this is real life scenario you're talking about now. So go, find her, sit her down and see if you cant work out the differences you feel between the two of you. Whatever you do, dnt waste her time or emotions.
Maybe he has discussed it with her, and his family. So what happens then?
Maybe he has discussed it with her, and his family. So what happens then?
It depends on what reasons you gave and what their response was.
If you gave your family reasons like "she cant cook" or "I dnt like the way she dresses", people might not take you very seriously and dismiss your emotions as cold feet. However, if you did give some solid reasons, then if you dnt mind my asking...what were they??
It depends on what reasons you gave and what their response was.
If you gave your family reasons like "she cant cook" or "I dnt like the way she dresses", people might not take you very seriously and dismiss your emotions as cold feet. However, if you did give some solid reasons, then if you dnt mind my asking...what were they??
What did the girl say?
Say the guys says that perhaps he jumped into the engagement too soon without really understanding her or getting to know her. She says that he can get to know her in the meanwhile. However the problem is that there is 50% chance of him saying that he made a mistake. Nobody is keen on that happening, including the parents. So he in under pressure to stick to the engagement. He would feel worse if he chatted to her for a few months and then still said no...and that he made a rash decison, and it was a mistake.
