Re: Breaking an engagement
well yes i would break it...break it or u may regret it after getting married...
though have a chat with ur partner and then make up ur mind asap
what does ishtikar mean?
it is a guidance prayer, it is for you to get Allah (swt) guidance on a matter just type istikhara in google and you'll find loads of links telling you to how to perform one and the meanings
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Say you got engaged and after that you started having second thoughts or getting cold feet, is it morally or ethically right to break the engagement?
Well if yea do , get ready for that ‘ GAY’ Label .... and all sort of other desi blame games..
Say you got engaged and after that you started having second thoughts or getting cold feet, is it morally or ethically right to break the engagement?
have u got to know the person u r engaged too?
wats making u feel tht u wanna break of ur engagement?
Say you got engaged and after that you started having second thoughts or getting cold feet, is it morally or ethically right to break the engagement?
It all depends on your reasons. What's making you have those second thoughts and turning your feet cold. If those are valid and legitimate reasons then you'd be morally wrong to continue the engagement.
However, I'd like to add that dealing with cold feet and other similar feelings during the engagement is really your own character/personality test - how much can you take and how mature you really are - good way to assess whether or not you're even ready for a serious commitment as marriage. :)
Say you got engaged and after that you started having second thoughts or getting cold feet, is it morally or ethically right to break the engagement?
In some situations that you are really not getting along it is right to break an engagement than destroying two lives later.
what is the real reason of breaking it off...is it cold feet(just nervousness) or more then that?
It could be anything....nervousness...apprehension...don't feel ready....don't feel compatible...felt it was all too rushed....maybe confused between two choices.
It is a hypothetical situation.
It could be anything....nervousness...apprehension...don't feel ready....don't feel compatible...felt it was all too rushed....maybe confused between two choices.
u havent said if you have spoken to ur fiance, so why dont u get to tlk to her and have a better picture of her,
and then make the decision...
Re: Breaking an engagement
^^ trust me whn i got engaged i had the same feelings...but still got married to him..and today im regreting my decision big time.....i love him a lot but still things dont work out always
You know i would say follow your gut feeling. Also do istikhara to be sure. A friend of mine had a cold fiancée she still went ahead and did nikah. The guy would always seem distant, then we all found out he had married someone else. So i think breaking it is better than being miserable latter in life.
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You love your husband but still wish you wernt married to him?
^^ trust me whn i got engaged i had the same feelings...but still got married to him..and today im regreting my decision big time.....i love him a lot but still things dont work out always
u havent said if you have spoken to ur fiance, so why dont u get to tlk to her and have a better picture of her,
and then make the decision...
LOL. He said it's hypothetical situation!
You love your husband but still wish you wernt married to him?
yes because we r separated now...nd i dont think luv fades out so quickly
aAAAhhhhhh Im so sorry, sweetheart. Best wishes with everything, i mean it.
yes because we r separated now...nd i dont think luv fades out so quickly
u havent said if you have spoken to ur fiance, so why dont u get to tlk to her and have a better picture of her,
and then make the decision...
Say you talk to her and waste a few months of her time and then still potentially might say no....would that be better?
Re: Breaking an engagement
^ whose to say that he may not like her in those few months? or is it that bad?
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Basically what happened was it was a long engagement aprox 8 months. My friend lives in the uk the guy was studying in another country not the uk. From initial contact and talking when they met in Pakistan everything was fine and they liked each other. So the engagement went ahead. As he is a Pakistani citizen studying abroad it was decided he would come to the uk. So they did nakiah not wedding as he said he had exams and stuff to do, so did my friend as she was doing exams as well. So after nikah she came back and continued to make plans like work find a house etc. The guy kept on acting cold and saying it was his degree course getting stressful yada yada and he wanted to study more. So lets say it was 2 years after the nikah. when it was time for him to come here to the uk as everything was done then my friend found out from his family that he was not coming here as he had admitted he was married. So my friend wasted 3 years of her life on a loser and now she is divorced.
Say you talk to her and waste a few months of her time and then still potentially might say no....would that be better?
Bachoo i think ur very confused, how about if you dont speak to her, and then regret it afterwoulds then wat? why would u speak to her for a few months:S u wanna get to know her Character so why would tht take a few months.....
CE very confused
Re: Breaking an engagement
Ive no idea what you're doing Arshad. If there is a problem and you sense it is big enough to break off an engagement, then the first person should be the one involved that you turn to. You're asking strangers who are not in the least affected by this problem to give you a solution. Of course, we all care and will do our best to help but dont you think you're being unfair to this girl, even hypothetically speaking???
You're having doubts and she may/may not be on Cloud 9 planning her wedding. She has no idea what is coming her way...dnt you think thats mean even if you dnt like the person enough to marry them?
These are online forums and we are all virtual to you...but this is real life scenario you're talking about now. So go, find her, sit her down and see if you cant work out the differences you feel between the two of you. Whatever you do, dnt waste her time or emotions.