Break-ups and moving on

[partyslims]

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It has the potential to be pretty devastating. It all depends about how much of yourself you gave in that relationship, how much of a bond you formed, how much you trusted, and what the circumstances were for it to end. Because think about it, the person you talk to daily, confide in a lot, and are like your best friend, plus more, and in an instant they are gone. It also depends on how emotional a person you are with dealing with loss.

[Reidi_gul]

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Time is the best healer . Even if we dont forget, the intensity of emotions and pain associated with a particular person is decreased.

[Sohaib]

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As I see it (or experienced it), it depends on how guarded or cautious or reserved an individual was in the relationship. Some are quite dil phainks and get involved too much too soon. Some stay sane and move along nicely. While some are stubborn enough to stay guarded even after years of relationships.

So yeh, it may not be gender specific but nature specific...

[rolla_coaster]

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ahhh see when i say none of us are special but we are made to feel special, this doesnt exist.Everything is so replaceable these days.

[Nisha25]

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I know real life isn't like Devdas where the lovers, if separated, must spend all their lives boozing away in grief! But I have to admit, I do find it weird when couples separate and move on so quickly.

A friend of a friend (Pakistani guy) didn't get to marry his love interest because her family didn't approve of it and he ended up falling in "love" with another girl within 2-3 months of ending the previous relationship. I thought that was really strange and that he didn't truly love his ex ... but the expectation that he would have been completely devastated to the point that he refused to move on is also unrealistic.

So what is your outlook on this, let's say, experimentation with romantic relationships? (if that made any sense!)

the guy you're talkin about was on the rebound, many of those that are totally devastated by losing a love might be emotionally messed up so they emotionally attach themselves to another person immediately after one relationship ends. that's one theory and i've seen many that are like that.

then the other theory is that some people are just faster healers. they are able to recover and recoup better than others.

[NomiCA]

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It has the potential to be pretty devastating. It all depends about how much of yourself you gave in that relationship, how much of a bond you formed, how much you trusted, and what the circumstances were for it to end. Because think about it, the person you talk to daily, confide in a lot, and are like your best friend, plus more, and in an instant they are gone. It also depends on how emotional a person you are with dealing with loss.

As I see it (or experienced it), it depends on how guarded or cautious or reserved an individual was in the relationship. Some are quite dil phainks and get involved too much too soon. Some stay sane and move along nicely. While some are stubborn enough to stay guarded even after years of relationships. So yeh, it may not be gender specific but nature specific...

Agreed totally to the above two..

[mirage]

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@Ashy2010

Thats true. At least they should have enough sharam to be single for a few months before getting hooked up again. Insaaniat bhi koi cheez hoti hai k nahi

But seriously, women find it difficult to move on. Less women as compared to men marrying again after the death of spouse or divorce is the proof for that (but that may also because of less acceptance for this in the society and not women’s difficulty in moving on). But still women are more jazbaati when they have to let go of their love interest.

read the op again, he did wait for a couple of months :k:

[mirage]

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it is an emotional blow no doubt. but gone are the days bb when people used to jhoom barabar like devdas. we have become much more practical. things like reveling in your sorrows and deprivation are stupid. Rather we should do this sadqa jariyha and help every one going through breakup and after effects and find them the replacement so they can move on.

[ehl-e-chamman]

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I respectfully disagree with most of you here.
I think men find it much harder to move on then women (in cases of genuine relationships). Women are simply better at "display" of their mourning.

[sweefs]

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It has the potential to be pretty devastating. It all depends about how much of yourself you gave in that relationship, how much of a bond you formed, how much you trusted, and what the circumstances were for it to end. Because think about it, the person you talk to daily, confide in a lot, and are like your best friend, plus more, and in an instant they are gone. It also depends on how emotional a person you are with dealing with loss.

I respectfully disagree with most of you here. I think men find it much harder to move on then women (in cases of genuine relationships). Women are simply better at "display" of their mourning.

i agree.

gender has nothing to do with moving on from a break up.

[Shak]

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Men are humans too, with emotions of love and care when it comes to relationships believe it or not for those of you saying ''they wouldn't be hurt''

We would feel as hurt if something isn't going to work with the girl we love in the future :)

[Niksik]

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I know real life isn't like Devdas where the lovers, if separated, must spend all their lives boozing away in grief! But I have to admit, I do find it weird when couples separate and move on so quickly.

A friend of a friend (Pakistani guy) didn't get to marry his love interest because her family didn't approve of it and he ended up falling in "love" with another girl within 2-3 months of ending the previous relationship. I thought that was really strange and that he didn't truly love his ex ... but the expectation that he would have been completely devastated to the point that he refused to move on is also unrealistic.

So what is your outlook on this, let's say, experimentation with romantic relationships? (if that made any sense!)

One word. Hormones. For whichever party that chooses to experiment that quickly.

[rizla86]

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Depends who was more dependent on the other in the relationship, and who broke up with whom.

[Man_with_a_Plan]

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First Love and Break Up is Always hard to get over ... after which you really don't care ... !

[Nisha25]

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those that have been in that eternal lasting love what does it feel like when you are loved by that person. like a man in love with a woman? i'm serious here, not talking about infatuation but actual true love, how does that man treat you?

i'm just trying to see why it's so devastating when you lose that love.

3 months seems like a really short time to get over such a love, it took me that long just to get over an infatuation or crush

[Xtron]

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We are just good at dealing with break ups. It's kind of funny but whenever we come across hot girl and a minute second hotness passes by, we forget the first one. My professor said that once.

[madinahme]

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First Love and Break Up is Always hard to get over ... after which you really don't care ... !

I may agree with this but I'm not really sure. I know first love/crush/infatuation is one of the hardest things to get over because you're unaware of what you're getting into. I think people who are stronger and more practical handle these things better then people who go into a relationship and think that this is it - love conquers all kind of bakwas

[madinahme]

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We are just good at dealing with break ups. It's kind of funny but whenever we come across hot girl and a minute second hotness passes by, we forget the first one. My professor said that once.

how true is that? men are such interesting creatures

[Ashy2010]

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@Shak09

Men are humans too, with emotions of love and care when it comes to relationships believe it or not for those of you saying ‘‘they wouldn’t be hurt’’

We would feel as hurt if something isn’t going to work with the girl we love in the future

awww how jazbaaati comment

@Man_with_a_Plan

First Love and Break Up is Always hard to get over … after which you really don’t care … !

And first love usually happens at a very early age and usually ends nowhere (for majority of us), so this means majority of people become insensitive to love after that (after experiencing their unsuccessful first love). And when they get involved in love that can lead to marriage, it becomes easier for them to break up and move if things don’t go right.

[Gina]

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Men are humans too, with emotions of love and care when it comes to relationships believe it or not for those of you saying ''they wouldn't be hurt''

We would feel as hurt if something isn't going to work with the girl we love in the future :)

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