In a few years, inshallah, I know that I will earn way more then my future hubby- which I don’t mind. I do however feel a tinsy bit sad that I will never be able to experience what staying at home feels like- like my mother, my aunts, my sister in law, and many of my friends enjoy, and will forever be a working mom.
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So I take it you don't have any kids now?
Don't feel sad, everybody has different lifestyle. You may be best suited for what you are about to do...but you always have a choice right?
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I would like to be a housewife one day, but if I dont get that, then I'd like to be the breadwinner and have my husband be Mr. Mom.
Dont feel sad...maybe once you have kids and stuff, priorities will change and you might end up staying home after all?
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In a few years, inshallah, I know that I will earn way more then my future hubby- which I don't mind. I do however feel a tinsy bit sad that I will never be able to experience what staying at home feels like- like my mother, my aunts, my sister in law, and many of my friends enjoy, and will forever be a working mom.
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Why do you feel sad, if you prefer to stay at home then why dont you stay at home. Or maybe you can find a job that allows you to work from home
Well I'm in med school, so you can't really be a doctor from home. I don't really mind, it's something that I always wanted, and really invested a lot my life into- so I can't really quit and just be stay at home person - especially when all my life i spent worrying getting into med school, and now getting through med school.
I think I'm just feeling a tinsy bit sad, cuz I have test coming up and need to study a lot of stuff, and the stay at home option looks really good right now. ;)
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Choti jaan, my parents are both doctors and when we were little, mom gave up her job for a couple of years to stay home with us because she wanted to and could do that. Then she went back to work when we started going to school. So there are many possibilities. Just don't stress yourself about life that still hasn't happened. Everything will fall into place insha'Allah.
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Choti, I know what you mean. I have a friend of mine who is the breadwinner in her house and her husband is Mr Mom to her 11 year old daughter. For some odd reason, I dont see her being too unhappy with that arrangement. She goes to work, makes the money, pays the bills, etc. He gets her daughter ready for school, makes lunches for both wife and daughter and cooks dinner every day. They are soooo happy Mashallah. I barely ever hear a complaint from her about her husband.
I know its not conventional or traditional but it depends on how emotionally close you are with your husband. It can definitely work...just got to keep an open mind about it.
Good luck with med school hun, Im sure your husband will appreciate everything you are doing and will do for him. :)
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In a few years, inshallah, I know that I will earn way more then my future hubby- which I don't mind. ]
hmm maybe you could find someone who makes more money than you do? Like a business tycoon? CEO of an MNC? an I-banker? or some sheikh from Dubai who has like a 100 cars garage?
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Why worry about something that has yet to happen.
Just live for what you have now.
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lol. Well, he’s a nice guy. He’s actually my childhood friend- I don’t even remember the first day we met. I don’t have to go anywhere; i get to stay in the same city where i was born in. His sister and I are friends from way back when, and blah blah blah. I mean to drop him just because he doesn’t make that much money? Does that doesn’t really sound right. And plus I don’t know any rich guys- and everyone always tells me rich guys have a big head 
. So I’m good.
Also, I guess I think it’s wierd because I was brought up to think that men were earners, and i can’t imagine men cooking food.
But you’re right, it’s really not worth thinking so far into the future.
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i hubby can make bread at home then mommy-dear don't have to work either...then he will be the breadmaker and she'll be the breadeater...
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Oh ok..I didnt know you were already committed!..btw, i was just joking abt the whole Mr.Richie rich thing.
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i cna easily recall my time wen i deadly wanted to stay home and enjoy my life. now.i have an 11 months baby and have left my job 6months back. there was a time wen i too yearned for enjoying life like other housewives. i had been doing my job since the past five years and was into it.
after i have lived a life of a housewife and am still the same, i would conclude that although the struggle life seems to b a sort of monotony but yes struggle is life. i m feeling myself stale day by day, have started ignoring myself, have a sort of dull person. i want to get into the job once again as one should try to utilise the degrees if u have put in a lot of struggle in achieving it. moreover, you get rid of this useless life as in my case there is no social life as well.
i have decided to continue my job after a family committment as with the busy world it is must to b with it. days run by and u are least bothered of others. staying at home is a sort of transitory wish, wen u will have it fulfilled u would realize that it is nothing. experience tells u a lot. v think that staying home is easy but infact it is more difficult wen u r dependant on ur husband for many things.
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Once you become a doctor. You can help him start some kind of business and make sure he turn it in a multi-million dollar business then you can stay home and he runs the business. I know a couple who are both MDs . They do not practice medicine anymore they run a franchise of full service restaurants. Another MD run a pathological lab they are both making tons of money.
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I have a friend who is a doctor and they have two kids. She works part time at a clinic where she sees patients 3 or 4 times a week. Maybe you could try something similiar too? You certainly wouldnt make alot of money than but atleast you can stay home with the kids for part of the time.
From my own personal experience, if staying at home is important to you, you can go ahead and do it. Just prepare yourself to live on one income. There is also some people who cannot just sit and home and cook and clean day after day. I am that kind of person. Even though i didnt want to work, i still wanted to do something. So i started grad school after getting married. Its working out fine so far but will see how it pans out with a kid in the picture (soon, inshaAllah).
In a few years, inshallah, I know that I will earn way more then my future hubby- which I don't mind. I do however feel a tinsy bit sad that I will never be able to experience what staying at home feels like- like my mother, my aunts, my sister in law, and many of my friends enjoy, and will forever be a working mom.
There's nothing you cant do--as long as you can adjust and be happy living solely on his income.
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also, its kinda scary but i've really enjoyed staying ome these last few days.. no school or work to go to!
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Choti jaan,
I can relate to how you feel about wanting to have a period in life where you can play the housewife role. I'm on the same career path and will be starting med school this August. What year are you in? I'm just curious :)
Sadly, though, we can't have it both ways. But I feel that many female MDs do part time so that they can satisfy this aspect of their life.
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My sister and bro in law are both docs, and she worked fulltime for a long time nd is now working at a reduced hours thing, i think 5 hrs a day or something. she is a well respected prfoessional, keeps her busy and she loves doign what she does but she has also now some more time to give to her kids and to herself.
Choti jaan,
I can relate to how you feel about wanting to have a period in life where you can play the housewife role. I'm on the same career path and will be starting med school this August. What year are you in? I'm just curious :)
Sadly, though, we can't have it both ways. But I feel that many female MDs do part time so that they can satisfy this aspect of their life.
CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I'm in my second year!! PrincessJoJo, just be mentally prepared- the first two years are BRUTAL!!! I hear third yr gets a teeny tiny bit better in that they actually have time to shower, and fourth year is party year.
You'll have an exciting time though!! If you have any questions you can PM me. Good luck!